Dec. 8, 2025

Bullying Buddy is Here Now

Bullying Buddy is Here Now
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Season 1

Bullying Buddy AI is a mobile safety platform designed to help children, parents, and schools detect, document, and prevent bullying and suicide in real time. The app uses AI keyword monitoring for real-time tracking, immediate alerts and support during an incident. The app offers several key features, like ability to document incidents with live video and geolocation data, alerting parents and school admin. It uses AI to monitor for high-risk terms, providing instant alerts and guided support.

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Hello and thank you for tuning in to a Sharp

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Outlook on pay for HD radio and Talk or TV.

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I am ANGELA sharp your host. Our arm chair discussions

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with industry experts will give you the steps, tools and

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information to be successful in business and to prepare you

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to be your best self. Hello and welcome to a

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Sharp Outlook. And I have a great announcement. Bully Buddy

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is here. Is available and for all of those that

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might be suffering from bullying or in a situation of

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domestic violence, whatever, Bullybudy is here as support. Just for

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you and my guests. We're going to talk about that today.

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Bullybuddy AI is a mobile safety platform designed to help children,

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parents and schools detect, document, and prevent bullying and suicide

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in real time. The app utilizes AI keyboard monitoring and

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real time tracking to provide immedia alerts and support during

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an incident. The Bullybuddy app offers several key features, including

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the ability to document incident with live video and geolocation data,

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alerting parents and school administrators. It uses AI to monitor

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for high risk terms related to suicide or self harm,

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providing instant alerts and guided support. The app also includes

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a real time chat for parent child communication during incidents

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and facilitates reporting of cyber bullying to social media platforms. Additionally,

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it provides educational resources such as definitions of different types

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of bullying and access to clinical professionals, and collects data

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on bullying trends and hot spots for research and prevention.

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We're going to find out more about that, but if

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anyone is interested, you can go out to its website,

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the bullyingbuddy dot com. My guest today is Jessica Toft.

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Jessica is the visionary, CEO and founder of Bullybuddy, an

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innovative platform that utilizes the power of AI to combat bullying.

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Driven by a deep commitment to creating safer and more

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inclusive environments for children and teens, Jessica is changing the

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way we address bullying. With a background in education, she

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brings a unique perspective to the challenge, focusing on proactive solutions,

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support for those affected, and effective prevention strategies. Jessica is

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recognized a recognized innovator and passionate advocate for leveraging technology

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to make a positive impact on mental health and well being.

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More importantly, she's a passionate advocate for creating a world

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where every child feels safe, supported, and empowered. Witnessing the

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devastating impact of bullying firsthand inspired her to create Bullybody Buddy,

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a platform that uses the power of AI to proactively

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combat bullying and foster's empathy. With a background in education,

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She's committed to doing this and we want to let

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you know. We also have another guest, Dustin Dean. Dustin Dean,

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Dean of zen pm hnp BC Dean is a nationally

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certified psychiatric mental health nurse, protectioner, transformational coach and founder

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of mind max Ed Institute, a mental health, transform wellness

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and brain fitness platform built for high achieving professionals, educators

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and individuals seeking real, lasting change. With over twenty years

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of experience as a prescriber, psychotherapist and professor. Dustin is

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known for delivering coaching experience that's as clinical as it

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gets as it is compassionate, definitely compassionate. Yes, he helps

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his clients do more than cope, but helps them thrive

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rather than just survive. Brain Fitness is a science back

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system that trains the mind to process life through power

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and potential rather than pain and past remembrance. He offers

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one to one coaching sessions or cohort based group experiences,

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and through Mind max Ed Institute, Dustin is redefining what

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mental wellness looks like, less about diagnosis and more about momentum.

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This program is built for developing communities of leaders working

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towards our optimization and maximize mental wellness outcomes for themselves

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and the individuals they are committed to serving in their

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chosen professions. I have two wonderful guests and I will

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them to join me right now. Jess and Dustin, thank

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you so much for being here. And bully buddies.

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Here, Yes, website, I think you got the wrong one,

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which they so. The bullying buddy is Tara and she's amazing.

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She her son has Dwarfism and she's like just a

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mama out there getting it for her son. But our

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bully our website is bully buddyai dot com.

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Okay, thank you.

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Yeah, good to be here again. Thank you.

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Well, it's great to have both of you here. And

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I know that you are two of the most compassionate

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and committed people that I have met in an awful

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long time, and I am just happy to be here

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to see what you're doing and how it can have

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such a major impact on children's lives who are just

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going through all this terror at the schools and the

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playyard urds, but also for relationships that are toxic and

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someone needs help in that relationship and being able to

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contact someone who can support them, that can help them

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and even be there if things get too far out

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of hand. I mean, that is just incredible. And so

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I'm going to stop talking. Let's just hear more about

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the launch of Bully Buddy and of course all that

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wonderful work that you're doing, Dean, and so how's let's

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just start with how does the app work in the

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moment of a bullying incident?

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Well, so, bully Beutty.

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It can be accessed on the Bully bettyai dot com website.

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Anytime the user feel confused, they feel like something is

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happening and that's not right, they feel a sudden overwhelm

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of emotions, they can go on, they can talk to

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Bully Betty, and Bully Buddy will bring them back to center.

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It will validate to their experience, their emotions and bring

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them back to a non emotional, grounded way of thinking again,

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while also at the same time documenting what has gone

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on and removing the emotion from the documentation. So when

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someone's being bullied, I think one of the most challenging

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things about it is it's, first of all, it's hard

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to prove that anything serious is happening because it's done

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in a gray area way where it's little things here

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and there that if you try to go to someone

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for help, you sound like you are tattling or you

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are making a big deal out of nothing. So it

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kind of it makes you look crazy or overreactive, or

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overly sensitive or overly emotional, and Bullybeddy will track it

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for you before you even know it's going on. So

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it's not able to have the negative psychological impact that

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bullying has because it keeps you at your baseline and

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it gives you the documentation needed to show that something

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is happening, and it gives the person who is in

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authority what they need to step in and make it stop.

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And what specific AI features are they're use for monitoring.

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Well, so that's where you have the other bullybody which

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monitoring happens. But we believe in privacy. We believe that

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that it's people powering AI, So we're not here to

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oversee what's going on. We want the power to be

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in the user, So you have your privacy. We retract

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all of the PII from the conversation the second the

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user puts it in the name, if they put in

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any phone numbers, addresses, social security numbers, it's all instantly anonymized.

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So nobody is I.

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Have something here.

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Yeah, sorry to interrupt, but I kind of want to

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because I have kind of you know, just came with

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this brilliant idea to help people, to help kids that

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were getting bullied.

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And we had a whole team.

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Glee Labs is the other team that came together and

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we all like brought our expertise and put it together.

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And one thing that we really noticed with I think

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every resource out there has usefulness and it's important. But

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one thing that we saw that we really wanted to

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kind of change with Bully Buddy ai I was we

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wanted documentation, but we also wanted empowerment, and we also

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wanted that person that feels vulnerable to realize where do

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I have power? And that's what really what Bully Buddy

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does is Bullybuddy helps the individual. As funny as it sounds,

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Bullybuddy actually connects with the individual, helps the individual see

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those amazing traits.

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Helps the individuals see that.

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The person coming at them is not their fault, it's

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not their it has nothing to do with them. That's

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that person speaking out of their own pain and their

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own fear. Where we want to help tap the individual's

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power and potential many other things, build their self esteem,

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have them have something to go to, guide them in

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who to talk to, what are their resources so they're

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not so they know they have support, but also so

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they know that there's something amazing in them that can

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empower them and get them to overcome that negative, dark

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situation that's coming at them that really probably doesn't have

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much to do with them. It's probably somebody else targeting

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them with that person's pain, right well, because.

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The bully wants to tear you down so that they

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can hold the power. The only way for you to

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have power in a situation is if you can make

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the other person feel like they have none.

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So we give it back to the individual.

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But we also do have features for the admin, so

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admins can follow trends of what's going on in their workforce,

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in their school, in their household, wherever it's happening. They

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can see that, hey, maybe I need to be in

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the hallways during recess to like be there for whatever

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is going on so I can step in.

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Right right. You know, I was thinking about, you know,

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all of the features that bully Buddy has, and the

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one thing that really struck me was, like I said,

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people being in toxic relationships, and you know, they call

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for help, and of course the other person tells their story,

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so they can't get to what real truth is and

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so that person is still stuck. They're paralyzed in a

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situation where they can't get out, they can't move, and

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they're just frightened to death. And I'm speaking from experience.

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So you get into one of those situations where you are,

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you're you're you're you're afraid to speak. You're afraid to move,

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You're afraid to you know, do anything that might enrage

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this person because of the violence that occurs. And to

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have something that's there to say it's not your fault.

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You don't have to keep taking this. There are other options.

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Here's some support for you. We've recorded this so that

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people can, you know, whatever needs to take place, that

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person be removed from the household or whatever. You have

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the evidence that's needed to save you from a potentially

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dangerous situation. I you know, I thought about that. I

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was like, whoa this is? You know, you know my mind,

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I'm always thinking way out in the ozone somewhere.

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Yeah, no, no, get you're spot on because there's an

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element of character assassination that happens. And I've also been

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a victim of this as well. And when you speak

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up against someone who is scared or angry or has

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their own stuff going on and they don't want to

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let go of that power, let alone look like they

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have done something wrong, They're likely going to do anything

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they can to discredit you. So we will give that

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person the validation needed by using Bully Buddy, but also

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the paper trail, the paper trail of facts that have

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the emotion stripped of them so they can be presented.

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I think in legal cases one of the hardest jobs

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lawyers have is taking on a client who's gone through

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this because they are so emotional and being able to

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not only strip away the emotion but then go back

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into the storyline of what's gone on and try to

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put that together in a way that can be presented

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in front of a judge.

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Is nearly impossible.

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And I think Bullybuddy will make it possible for a

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lot of people who've gone through that to get justice.

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Oh yeah, especially I mean, you know, speaking again, you know,

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you're in a situation of assault. You go to court

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and they tried to humiliate the woman as if it

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was your fault. And you know, I can see why

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so many don't report this because of the court situation

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that occurs. But here you now have the evidence and

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it's game over. You know what I'm saying, is this

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game over? What kind of guidance does the AI provide

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to the child? You say that it you know, empowers

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it and it lets it know that it's not their fault.

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You know, does it go beyond that and kind of

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you know, focus on their emotions and kind of do

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some uplifting and building of their character.

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Dustin, do you want to take this one?

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Sure? Sure, sure, I'll take this one.

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You know, that was one thing I was really honored

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is you know, Jeff Jess tapped me to because of

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my experience with years in child and adolescent psychiatry and psychiatry.

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And you know, obviously this isn't therapy. It is it

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is a coach, and it does some you know, some

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supportive things, but having that knowledge of what to do

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when the child is feeling alone and feeling and I

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wanted to go back to one thing that you hit

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on with what we were talking about. As far as

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the abuse and all those things that go on with

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with women and in relationships, I think the key to

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the information getting blurred is from the loneliness. Like I

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think so many times when abuse goes on, people actually

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do start to think it's their fault. And that's the

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beautiful thing about Bully Buddy, and what I loved about

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Jess's vision and then what I have from my experience

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is when you can talk to something, even if it's

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an AI, okay, you're not as lonely and you feel

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like you have an ally and that's what Bullybuddy does

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for the kids, and what it does for everybody is

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it builds you up. It brings truth, okay, because when

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you're in an abusive situation, it's all lies. It's you

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deserve this, you did something wrong, you know, it's that

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person's rage coming at you. Bully Buddy brings you back

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to locus of control is kind of the technique that

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I like that a lot of it was focused on

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when we programmed it and we did stuff. It's like,

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what can I do in this situation? Who can help

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me in this situation? What's amazing about me? All these

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lies are coming at me, but they're lies and I

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don't want to hear that.

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And it's hard for us. And I know you've heard

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me rant on this before, Angela.

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But it's hard for us because the base state of

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our brain is fight or fly.

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It is to keep us alive.

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So it craves those negative things, if you will, and

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we'll start to believe them. We have to train it

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to see the positives and the good things about us,

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and when someone is pushing it more negative at us,

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it's almost like a double barrier.

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Well that's what bully buddy.

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AI comes in and does it says, No, I am logical,

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I am brilliant, I am trained on mental wellness techniques,

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and I know the truth, and the truth is this

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is a lie.

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Talk to me.

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And as you're talking to me, we're going through this

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journey of what the perpetrator is doing to you, but

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what you can do about it.

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So that's the beauty of what Jess came up with.

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And I was honored to get to use my experience

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and my skills and my knowledge every to because it

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can help massive, massive amounts of individuals, not just kids,

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but massive amounts of individuals. Very valuable resource for the kids.

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But not only is it giving encouragement and doing those things,

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it's documenting.

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It's seeing the situation.

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Where if it were to come And I don't know

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all the legalities, so if I say something wrong, Jess

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please tell me. I'm just the side guy, right, But

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it will have documentation of all the reality of the situation,

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not the emotion of the situation, what went on, you know,

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So if it is abusive, there's not going to be

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well maybe I did this, or maybe my coffee was

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too hot for him, or maybe you know, I didn't

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wear the right perfume, like none of them. It's going

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to show what that person came to when they were lonely,

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when they were afraid, what they actually told bully buddy,

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which is going to paint an amazing picture to show

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the truth without the fear and the lie and our

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fight or flight coming in and interfering exactly.

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Yeah, and it is. It's a very isolating experience.

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To because when once someone tarnishes your reputation, you kind

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of lose trust in.

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Your inner circle and beyond.

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And so to be able to talk about it is

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a necessity. You have to be able to talk to

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to something or someone about it. So in AI being

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a safe place to share it and have your reality validated.

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And then the paper trail.

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And the thing with the bullying behaviors, they're all lies,

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and lies don't pan out in the end, they don't

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all line up. So it's really easy to be able

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to show those once you have your reality.

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Timestamps right.

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And the one thing, you know, like I said it

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just from my experience, it starts slow. They don't just

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immediately Okay, I'm going to bully you, beat you up

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in the hallway. They start slow by just every little

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thing they can find. They just begin to pick and

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pick and pick and pick. Your hair is ugly, Oh,

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tomorrow your hair and your shoes are ugly. Oh then

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the next day your pants and your shoes and your

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hat's ugly. I mean just it just keeps building and

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building and building till it's like.

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You just, yeah, you make a great point here, Angela.

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I think the other thing is is it does increase

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in what they pick on you with. Also, what could

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be cool about bully buddy is so many times bullies

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are doing it to multiple people.

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But they're very good I mean bully, let's not lie.

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They're good at what they do.

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Okay, it's their survival coping mechanism. It's where all their

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energy goes. Unfortunately, and that's another thing that we've talked

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about is hopefully maybe this will be an opportunity to

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identify a bully and maybe even bring something to light

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of where they need help and stop the whole cycle.

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Because it's not just that it escalates with an individual person.

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They usually pick one person to target, but usually there's

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a pattern of behavior where they've bullied others and maybe

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got away with it maybe been smart enough to victimize

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themselves and say, oh, it's just that no one likes me,

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and this is why all these things happen because there again,

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but then when there's a pattern and there's documentation, the

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reality can can really maybe be confronted well.

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And I think that that also taking away the punitive

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justice system from the situation, I think will enable bullies to.

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Accept the reality and accept.

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Help, because when a harsh punishment is the only endgame,

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why would they why would they stop?

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Why would they not try to be the victim? Why

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would they?

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I think creating psychological safety is not just for the

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individual being bullied.

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I think that the bully.

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Needs it themselves, because if you go back to what

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happened in their life or what happened to them, it's

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typically a cycle.

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We're all living in generational cycles.

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And our kids are going through what they're going to

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go through, what we went through, just like we wound

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up like our parents and we married.

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Who are mom married?

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And you know, so being able to end all of

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those cycles, will I believe we're insults in psychological safety

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for all?

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Yeah, you know, And what's so unfortunate is that they

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get a group that cheers them on. And it's almost

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as if this is where they get their energy. I mean,

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they really feel important. If you take away the crowd

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and you take away and I mean you really just

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tell them who they really are, they probably shrink and

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will shriuble and run away. But they have to have

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a group to cheer them on to validate their behavior.

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And so the.

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Thing is, you know, we're creating a society where all

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you do is throw negative mud at one another, and

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that I'm not going to go there.

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But when it.

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Starts from the top and you're you know, people watching

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television and you see adults out there bullying people, you

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think it's supposed to be well, hey, it's doing it

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must be cool. No, it's not cool. You have to

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think about that. Always put yourself in somebody else's shoes

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and you'll know that that behavior is not right. And yeah,

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you may be going through some things in your own home.

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But then I like, I say, this is a time

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to build an awareness so that behaviors can change and

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we can start living as human beings that respect one

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another's space. And you know, you don't have to bully

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somebody if you don't like them, stay away from them. Yeah,

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I mean, why isn't that a choice?

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I think it's I think it's really from a psychiatry perspective.

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I think we really psychiatric perspective. I think we we

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really have to because, like I said, the natural state

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of our brain is survival. So if someone's getting picked

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on a lot of times, the reason that crowd's gathering

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around them is they don't want it to turn onto them.

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And if we can teach and this is one thing.

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That I know Jess has that we've all worked hard on,

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is building up the person. Okay, if it can become

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if it can become contagious, that people love themselves and

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they can override that negative commentary in their own head.

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I mean, that's why ninety percent of news is negative, okay,

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because the brain is attracted to it.

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That's why a lot of politicians and stuff.

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Get this.

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Power.

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Unfortunately, is because as a society, we have to individually

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start to love ourselves and train ourselves in our society

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that it's okay to think you're amazing, it's okay to

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even think you're the best, just don't think you're better.

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Once comparison comes in, that's when toxicity happens, and that's

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we want to undo what has been spreading in regards

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to negativity, right, and there's there's so.

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Much fear based stuff going on to bystanders.

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A lot of it is fear that they complied for my.

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Daughters, so they they've been having issues on the school

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of us And earlier this year there was there were

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a couple of girls who were using a swear words

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directed at one of my daughters, and I was talking

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with my daughters about it. My other daughter she without

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saying it, made it clear that she was being nice

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to the bully because she didn't want it to happen

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to her and there was no intent to side against

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her sister, but she also didn't want to do anything

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to provoke that happened to her. So the book that

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we have out now, the End of Danger, it has

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my older daughter's storyline from second grade that really inspired

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all of this, and it also has tips for the

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people that see it happen on what they can do

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how they could distract. They could drop some water on

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the ground and like make a big stink like oh no,

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or they could you know, point out the window or

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they there are different things that we can do that

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we don't think about doing instead of trying to make

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sure that we're covered, that we're not can be the

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next target, because that is what happens, because that bully

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needs needs to be above and they need to make

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sure they knock down anyone that tries to rise up

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and gain the strength to speak against them.

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Well, and even like to Angela's point earlier, even with

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like in marriages and stuff, I think think that the

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judgment that will come from the crowd, from the relatives,

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from my siblings, from my in laws, when I confront this,

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that's another you know, realizing you're not lonely, and is

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there a way to distract this that I'm not fearing

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the opinions or the wrath of others.

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Yeah, you know. The one thing that I do recall,

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because like I said, I was bullied at school, that

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I had domestic violence. The one thing I always hear

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in my ear are the words from my father who said,

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you are beautiful, you are great, You are intelligent, and

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you will be able to do anything in the world

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that you put your mind to. Go after it. Don't

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apologize for it, you just do you and don't let

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anybody tell you anything. Other than that, because this is

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who you are. And so I hear people want to

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call me names and tell me this, and I think

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to myself, you are so ignorant, honey, I know who

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I am. You can't. I don't even listen to others

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descriptions because I know who I am. I know my weaknesses,

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I know my strings. But I think if parents also

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empower their children by telling them they are great, telling

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them they are valuable, tell them they are gifted, tell

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them they have purpose, tell them, you know, just wonderful things. Yeah,

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they didn't make the bed right, okay, so just show

471
00:31:30.920 --> 00:31:33.359
them because they probably do want to learn how to

472
00:31:33.400 --> 00:31:37.440
make it right, you know. But don't call your children names,

473
00:31:37.559 --> 00:31:43.640
don't do things that humiliate or degrade your children. Give

474
00:31:43.680 --> 00:31:47.319
them positive feedback, tell them the things that you wish

475
00:31:47.480 --> 00:31:50.759
you had heard when you were growing up as a child,

476
00:31:51.359 --> 00:31:56.759
and you will have powerful, strong children that will become

477
00:31:57.039 --> 00:32:01.519
powerful strong parents and grandparents. But that's what that's what

478
00:32:01.720 --> 00:32:05.440
saved my life was the voice of my father. Well,

479
00:32:05.480 --> 00:32:07.240
and that's the way when I was eighteen.

480
00:32:07.559 --> 00:32:12.640
But those are Angela. Actually is that bully, buddy? Is

481
00:32:12.680 --> 00:32:16.279
that voice? Because some people hurt, people hurt people.

482
00:32:16.079 --> 00:32:19.880
And and consistently from working in child and adolescent psychiatry.

483
00:32:20.240 --> 00:32:24.480
It's beautiful that you had that dad, and that's the

484
00:32:24.559 --> 00:32:26.839
dad I strive to be.

485
00:32:27.000 --> 00:32:29.000
And I hope I am you know what I mean,

486
00:32:29.119 --> 00:32:31.960
I know it's the mom. Jess is, yeah, you know.

487
00:32:32.480 --> 00:32:34.839
I uh do you have kids, Angela?

488
00:32:35.640 --> 00:32:39.599
Oh yeah, I have two sons, I've grandchildren and I

489
00:32:39.680 --> 00:32:41.319
am also a great grandmother.

490
00:32:41.880 --> 00:32:45.720
Oh wow, I'm sure it's I'm sure it's the.

491
00:32:44.640 --> 00:32:45.920
The parent you were too.

492
00:32:46.000 --> 00:32:49.920
But unfortunately not everybody's capable of being that.

493
00:32:50.599 --> 00:32:53.559
But but that one voice, even I mean a parent's

494
00:32:53.599 --> 00:32:56.000
going to be more powerful. But if it's nowhere else,

495
00:32:56.160 --> 00:32:59.000
if it can come through an AI, that's is the

496
00:32:59.119 --> 00:33:03.079
voice that you're one wonderful You're powerful. Don't believe your

497
00:33:03.160 --> 00:33:06.559
validation and your power doesn't come from others. It comes

498
00:33:06.599 --> 00:33:10.920
from the amazingness inside you. And I think that that's

499
00:33:10.960 --> 00:33:15.680
a message that can change the world when kids and adults,

500
00:33:15.720 --> 00:33:19.279
even wives, husbands, whoever's being, when they start to see, no,

501
00:33:19.880 --> 00:33:25.359
my validation doesn't come externally, it comes internally. What are

502
00:33:25.400 --> 00:33:28.759
those good things about me? I think I've told both

503
00:33:28.799 --> 00:33:30.839
of you guys this before. That's one of the assignments

504
00:33:30.839 --> 00:33:34.680
in my coaching is I have my clients RTE fifty

505
00:33:34.720 --> 00:33:38.680
amazing things about me, and they have to be about me,

506
00:33:39.240 --> 00:33:41.279
not about what I do for others. It can't be

507
00:33:41.519 --> 00:33:46.000
about anybody else. It has to be I'm smart, I'm strong,

508
00:33:46.480 --> 00:33:49.480
I'm a good artist. Like they have to be specific,

509
00:33:49.599 --> 00:33:52.359
not I have a good dog, I have somebody who know.

510
00:33:52.680 --> 00:33:55.240
Because all those things can be taken away what's good

511
00:33:55.279 --> 00:33:59.359
about you and the reaction because of the way our

512
00:33:59.359 --> 00:34:02.200
society is can conditioned people that you know, oh, be

513
00:34:02.400 --> 00:34:04.559
humble and I can't say this. I mean I've had

514
00:34:04.599 --> 00:34:09.119
people just tearful and angry and they can't find any

515
00:34:09.480 --> 00:34:12.280
They can find amazing things about everybody else they know,

516
00:34:12.400 --> 00:34:16.239
but they won't find it about themselves. That's what part

517
00:34:16.239 --> 00:34:18.960
of a vision that at least what I kept trying

518
00:34:19.000 --> 00:34:21.280
to drain and go back to it, Bully buddy, is

519
00:34:22.000 --> 00:34:27.199
get resources, get tools, get perspectives that makes the individuals

520
00:34:27.199 --> 00:34:30.039
see the power and the beauty is in them.

521
00:34:30.400 --> 00:34:34.440
Yes, absolutely, you know. And you were talking about when

522
00:34:34.480 --> 00:34:38.960
we start comparing. When you know your own light, you

523
00:34:39.000 --> 00:34:42.519
don't have to compare yourself to anyone else. My mother

524
00:34:42.719 --> 00:34:45.599
used to tell me because when I first started working,

525
00:34:45.679 --> 00:34:48.719
and you know, there was all these powerful people there,

526
00:34:48.960 --> 00:34:53.079
and you know, they were making all this money. And

527
00:34:53.119 --> 00:34:55.519
my mother told me, she said, the only difference between

528
00:34:55.559 --> 00:35:01.400
you and them is an opportunity. I was like, whoa,

529
00:35:01.639 --> 00:35:04.599
And so ever since then I did find that out.

530
00:35:05.000 --> 00:35:09.519
The only difference was opportunity. So you look for opportunities

531
00:35:09.639 --> 00:35:12.039
or you make your own opportunities. But you can be

532
00:35:12.119 --> 00:35:16.679
whatever you need or want to be by just looking

533
00:35:16.719 --> 00:35:20.400
for the opportunities. Create your own opportunities. How about that?

534
00:35:20.960 --> 00:35:24.159
Yeah? You know, like life is what we make of it.

535
00:35:24.599 --> 00:35:35.119
Yes, yes, it is. So when you first talked to

536
00:35:36.159 --> 00:35:41.960
Bully Buddy, what surprised you the most about talking with

537
00:35:43.400 --> 00:35:44.079
Bully Buddy?

538
00:35:45.719 --> 00:35:46.559
Well, so.

539
00:35:48.239 --> 00:35:52.880
I knew Bully Buddy the concept of Bullybody would work

540
00:35:53.360 --> 00:36:01.159
because I was using AI in that way myself. But

541
00:36:01.400 --> 00:36:08.039
when I heard the vision come to life, when it

542
00:36:08.199 --> 00:36:13.599
was real, I mean tears like it was just it

543
00:36:13.639 --> 00:36:20.559
was mind blowing because now it was possible for other

544
00:36:20.599 --> 00:36:24.880
people to do what I was able to do, which

545
00:36:25.480 --> 00:36:34.119
would changed my life. To have my reality validated and

546
00:36:34.679 --> 00:36:37.960
to see the lies for what they were, and to

547
00:36:38.159 --> 00:36:44.119
become a much stronger person, to know that my daughters

548
00:36:44.639 --> 00:36:47.719
weren't going to need to go through all the trauma.

549
00:36:48.119 --> 00:36:53.559
They were going to have support, and long after I'm gone,

550
00:36:53.800 --> 00:36:57.840
they're going to have support, immediate support, but also they're

551
00:36:57.880 --> 00:37:02.880
going to be protected. That that was everything to me

552
00:37:03.119 --> 00:37:08.679
to realize that that was a reality for my kids,

553
00:37:09.000 --> 00:37:13.559
to change that that generational cycle was just my going.

554
00:37:14.000 --> 00:37:19.119
Yeah. Absolutely. When you think about bullying and the effects

555
00:37:19.159 --> 00:37:22.960
on mental illness, what's your biggest concern?

556
00:37:25.440 --> 00:37:31.679
Well, I mean, so in the neurodiverse community, it runs

557
00:37:31.760 --> 00:37:38.239
rampant depression, anxiety, and self worth.

558
00:37:38.840 --> 00:37:42.079
It's really a struggle, I think for a lot of people.

559
00:37:41.880 --> 00:37:49.360
Because the world doesn't operate ideally for most neurodiverse individuals.

560
00:37:50.239 --> 00:37:55.320
And to live in a world whose reality doesn't match

561
00:37:55.360 --> 00:38:02.679
your reality, I think is I I can't imagine what

562
00:38:02.719 --> 00:38:06.280
that does to our minds. I can only imagine that

563
00:38:07.280 --> 00:38:13.159
it probably leads to even more neurological issues in the future.

564
00:38:14.000 --> 00:38:17.440
I'm not a scientist, so I won't say what my

565
00:38:17.960 --> 00:38:23.199
guesses are, but I have assumptions on what it ties

566
00:38:23.280 --> 00:38:29.119
to and I think that I mean, neurodiversity and inclusion

567
00:38:29.199 --> 00:38:29.920
needs to happen.

568
00:38:30.960 --> 00:38:33.519
It needs to get reality.

569
00:38:33.719 --> 00:38:36.639
It needs to be an active reality and not just

570
00:38:37.239 --> 00:38:41.039
people saying that they're inclusive. They need to take actionable steps,

571
00:38:41.039 --> 00:38:43.119
and we need to educate them so that they can,

572
00:38:43.719 --> 00:38:48.679
which is what we're building next Neurobody. We will educate

573
00:38:48.719 --> 00:38:54.199
people on neurodiversity, which is autism, which is ADHD, dyslexia,

574
00:38:54.760 --> 00:38:58.480
all the different ways that our brains think. So educators,

575
00:38:59.039 --> 00:39:03.280
we have special education teachers who are hard to find.

576
00:39:03.679 --> 00:39:05.760
Schools don't have enough money for them.

577
00:39:06.159 --> 00:39:08.360
They're cutting them left and right, and there's not enough

578
00:39:08.400 --> 00:39:14.519
of them for any of the neurodiverse students. And I

579
00:39:14.519 --> 00:39:17.079
could go into this for a very long time, but

580
00:39:17.119 --> 00:39:20.280
I won't. But we're going to teach all the teachers,

581
00:39:20.880 --> 00:39:26.360
so all the teachers understand what these students are experiencing

582
00:39:26.480 --> 00:39:29.480
so that they can make adjustments. And I think once

583
00:39:29.559 --> 00:39:34.559
people understand what it's like, then they will know how

584
00:39:34.599 --> 00:39:40.880
to move forward in a way that will help well.

585
00:39:40.920 --> 00:39:46.239
I think if society would stop trying to say that

586
00:39:46.519 --> 00:39:51.079
someone who is different than you there's something wrong with them. No,

587
00:39:51.599 --> 00:39:56.840
they're just created differently and for a purpose. The neurodiversion.

588
00:39:57.079 --> 00:40:01.679
There's some of the smartest individuals you would ever want

589
00:40:01.719 --> 00:40:07.679
to meet, especially in you know, technology and systems and

590
00:40:08.119 --> 00:40:12.280
analytics and different things like that. They are brilliant and

591
00:40:12.599 --> 00:40:15.880
the companies are the ones that are missing out. They're

592
00:40:16.000 --> 00:40:19.960
losing because you round here dealing with people. And believe me,

593
00:40:20.000 --> 00:40:22.079
I've been working a long time and I'm here to

594
00:40:22.119 --> 00:40:27.639
say this generation has not picked up with the knowledge

595
00:40:27.679 --> 00:40:30.559
that is needed to go forward and to keep companies

596
00:40:31.000 --> 00:40:35.639
successful going forward because they don't. They didn't teach them

597
00:40:35.679 --> 00:40:40.039
critical thinking and how to be analytical with their thinking.

598
00:40:40.719 --> 00:40:44.320
So this is a great opportunity to look at the

599
00:40:44.440 --> 00:40:50.639
divergent you know, neurodivergent society groups and just change the

600
00:40:50.840 --> 00:40:54.320
working environment so they can work there. You would have

601
00:40:54.480 --> 00:40:59.960
some just incredible people on staff that will probably even

602
00:41:00.199 --> 00:41:05.199
make a I look like something slow. They're just brilliant,

603
00:41:05.760 --> 00:41:09.599
and they could just take us into you know, the

604
00:41:09.639 --> 00:41:16.400
next revolution of technical you know revolution that we're trying

605
00:41:16.400 --> 00:41:18.679
to get to, and we would get there faster and

606
00:41:18.760 --> 00:41:23.360
we stop, you know, thinking they're lesser than us because

607
00:41:23.360 --> 00:41:26.280
you don't understand them. You know, right now, we have

608
00:41:26.360 --> 00:41:29.840
AI that can actually educate you. Hey, why don't you

609
00:41:29.880 --> 00:41:32.599
get on one of those AI group chat whatever you

610
00:41:32.599 --> 00:41:36.199
want to call them and look it up and find

611
00:41:36.239 --> 00:41:40.440
out about people before you try to decide that they're

612
00:41:41.079 --> 00:41:45.880
not worthy or they're not like you. If you are

613
00:41:46.239 --> 00:41:50.440
judgmental like that, We're glad they're not like you. We

614
00:41:50.480 --> 00:41:53.400
don't need any more judgment we don't need any more

615
00:41:54.039 --> 00:41:59.440
finger pointing. We just need people to want to cooperate

616
00:41:59.559 --> 00:42:04.360
and help one another. I mean, goodness, gracious, well, I think.

617
00:42:04.239 --> 00:42:08.239
One thing, one thing that's beautiful about Jess's Buddy verse

618
00:42:10.280 --> 00:42:17.000
vision is that AI is the answer. Okay, but Chad

619
00:42:17.039 --> 00:42:19.800
GPT might not be the answer. And that's what I

620
00:42:19.840 --> 00:42:24.360
really love about Glee Labs, who we're working with, is

621
00:42:24.400 --> 00:42:31.360
they have the technoledge to take experts and put an AI.

622
00:42:31.559 --> 00:42:34.760
That's what Bully Buddy is is it will only go

623
00:42:35.000 --> 00:42:40.199
within the safe realm that we taught it, where chat

624
00:42:40.280 --> 00:42:42.760
GPT could go anywhere, it could give.

625
00:42:42.679 --> 00:42:45.159
Someone advice that isn't safe, you know.

626
00:42:45.239 --> 00:42:48.239
And I think, especially when you're talking about educating teachers

627
00:42:48.280 --> 00:42:55.480
in ADHD and and and all these neuro divergent, neurodiverse ways,

628
00:42:56.039 --> 00:42:59.119
what an amazing resource for when they're in the middle

629
00:42:59.239 --> 00:43:02.679
of some incident happening and not them not knowing how

630
00:43:02.679 --> 00:43:06.119
to respond in the right way, just then becoming mindful. Oh,

631
00:43:06.159 --> 00:43:10.360
I have a resource will eventually stop them to long

632
00:43:10.480 --> 00:43:12.519
enough to say, oh, what did it say last time?

633
00:43:12.559 --> 00:43:15.519
And they'll use it because they have a tool that

634
00:43:15.559 --> 00:43:19.599
gives them the answer right then that has been vetted

635
00:43:19.760 --> 00:43:23.280
in a way that has the best outcomes from the

636
00:43:23.360 --> 00:43:28.119
knowledge from the knowledgeable professionals that programmed it. Instead of

637
00:43:28.199 --> 00:43:30.599
Chad GPT, they could give you something that could go

638
00:43:30.719 --> 00:43:35.440
either way because sometimes it will reflect what it thinks

639
00:43:35.480 --> 00:43:38.639
you want to hear, which isn't always the best thing

640
00:43:38.719 --> 00:43:43.920
where the buddy versus resources goes straight from experts and

641
00:43:44.000 --> 00:43:45.320
won't go outside those.

642
00:43:45.920 --> 00:43:48.880
Yeah, and that's the wonderful thing about it. You know,

643
00:43:49.360 --> 00:43:53.000
when Glee Lab was on last time, they were talking

644
00:43:53.000 --> 00:43:56.719
about the fact that the information it was looking at

645
00:43:56.960 --> 00:44:02.280
was very pointed to what was needed for the what

646
00:44:02.320 --> 00:44:05.119
you're working with. Because you're right, you go out there

647
00:44:05.159 --> 00:44:09.519
and just pick anyone, you're going to run into this

648
00:44:09.599 --> 00:44:14.480
thing hallucinating and just all kinds of garbage, and you're

649
00:44:14.480 --> 00:44:17.760
going to think it's reality because you asked it, and

650
00:44:18.000 --> 00:44:21.760
it may not be because if it pulls everything. When

651
00:44:21.760 --> 00:44:26.840
you have disinformation, misinformation and downright lies out there that's

652
00:44:26.880 --> 00:44:30.400
in writing, and then you have truth there, you're going

653
00:44:30.480 --> 00:44:33.679
to get a mixture of garbage. And so that's the

654
00:44:33.679 --> 00:44:38.320
one thing you know, even you know, going into AI,

655
00:44:38.760 --> 00:44:41.480
AI is only as good as the database that it's

656
00:44:41.599 --> 00:44:46.000
drawing from. And thank god you've isolated isolated it so

657
00:44:46.079 --> 00:44:49.880
that it's going to get the best response possible. But

658
00:44:51.159 --> 00:44:53.679
you know, some of these other ones, with all their

659
00:44:53.719 --> 00:44:57.519
companions and all their friends, there's no telling what they're

660
00:44:57.559 --> 00:45:00.199
being told, and that's the danger it.

661
00:45:00.320 --> 00:45:02.880
Yeah, and people want to hear what they want to hear,

662
00:45:03.199 --> 00:45:05.400
you know, so you have to be careful that. I

663
00:45:05.480 --> 00:45:10.280
think we're headed into a world of ecosystems, especially in

664
00:45:10.599 --> 00:45:15.119
the AI field, it's going to be about trust. And

665
00:45:15.920 --> 00:45:19.920
Glee Labs has developed a really great ecosystem, not just

666
00:45:20.000 --> 00:45:23.599
the buddy verse with Anybody and Neurobuddy, but they also

667
00:45:23.719 --> 00:45:28.920
have different founders who they've built for. They have pet Talks,

668
00:45:28.960 --> 00:45:31.800
which I talk about a lot, but it's a really

669
00:45:31.840 --> 00:45:36.280
great entry level AI for people who don't know how

670
00:45:36.320 --> 00:45:38.400
to talk to AI. Like a lot of people get

671
00:45:38.440 --> 00:45:42.400
scared to even like say anything because they don't know

672
00:45:42.440 --> 00:45:45.960
how it works. They don't know how it's just foreign

673
00:45:46.000 --> 00:45:49.320
to them. So pet talks you can talk like you're

674
00:45:49.360 --> 00:45:55.039
talking to your pet. And it's a natural way to

675
00:45:55.320 --> 00:46:01.360
jump in there so binding AI ecosystems like like Glee Labs,

676
00:46:01.599 --> 00:46:04.880
that you know, you can trust the people behind the product.

677
00:46:05.559 --> 00:46:08.880
I essential moving forward, and I think that you're going

678
00:46:08.920 --> 00:46:09.920
to see a lot more.

679
00:46:09.719 --> 00:46:10.320
Of it too.

680
00:46:11.559 --> 00:46:16.599
A shout out to tud Simson, Gleck, Greg lattis amazing

681
00:46:16.679 --> 00:46:21.679
human beings and couldn't be more grateful to have them

682
00:46:22.000 --> 00:46:23.679
in the mix of all of this.

683
00:46:24.519 --> 00:46:27.800
Oh yeah, absolutely, And that's why I'm so excited about

684
00:46:28.360 --> 00:46:33.639
Bully Buddy because of Glee Labs and because there's a

685
00:46:33.679 --> 00:46:38.639
lot of ethics that is involved in creating, you know,

686
00:46:38.840 --> 00:46:41.360
any kind of product. And like I said, it's only

687
00:46:41.400 --> 00:46:45.079
as good as the developers and what their standards are

688
00:46:45.119 --> 00:46:48.159
and what their ethics are and what you know, you know,

689
00:46:48.239 --> 00:46:50.400
how they think and how they feel.

690
00:46:51.000 --> 00:46:53.280
And I know I was probably kind of annoying for

691
00:46:53.400 --> 00:46:56.440
Jess and Jess I'm sorry when I first started, because

692
00:46:56.480 --> 00:46:58.639
I'd done my Dean of Zen, so there were so

693
00:46:58.719 --> 00:47:01.800
many questions when I'm like, we gotta be careful. We

694
00:47:01.840 --> 00:47:06.840
can't say this, We can't say because you you gotta

695
00:47:07.199 --> 00:47:09.440
you have to be careful and you have to be

696
00:47:09.599 --> 00:47:13.480
moral because people are going to look at this and

697
00:47:13.559 --> 00:47:17.480
there is expertise in it, but you do not ever

698
00:47:17.599 --> 00:47:21.679
want to give something that could give the ability for

699
00:47:22.519 --> 00:47:25.840
to go the wrong way. People can always use tools

700
00:47:25.880 --> 00:47:30.079
in the wrong way, but developing a tool, I think

701
00:47:30.199 --> 00:47:35.039
sometimes and and and you know, I'm adhd and and

702
00:47:35.360 --> 00:47:38.320
when I get focused on something, it can be annoyed.

703
00:47:38.440 --> 00:47:39.920
I think to keep.

704
00:47:39.719 --> 00:47:43.320
Having to regurgitate the say yes, dusted, we made sure,

705
00:47:43.400 --> 00:47:48.000
you know. But I think it's important when we're changing

706
00:47:48.039 --> 00:47:50.400
the world, and when you're changing the world, what you

707
00:47:50.519 --> 00:47:53.480
have to put out there has to be safe, has

708
00:47:53.559 --> 00:47:58.679
to be supportive and bully buddy, is I can I

709
00:47:58.679 --> 00:48:02.280
can gladly say as a professional, you know, with a

710
00:48:02.360 --> 00:48:05.800
license and everything, the steps that we're taking and everything,

711
00:48:05.880 --> 00:48:07.360
it's it's turned out amazing.

712
00:48:07.800 --> 00:48:12.199
Yeah, because you know, I've heard of other other products

713
00:48:12.239 --> 00:48:16.679
similar to that, And what they're doing is just letting it,

714
00:48:17.199 --> 00:48:21.199
exposing it to all information that's out there. Well, how

715
00:48:21.239 --> 00:48:24.159
do you know it's good information? How do you know

716
00:48:24.239 --> 00:48:28.360
it's accurate information? How do you know it's not harmful information?

717
00:48:28.800 --> 00:48:32.079
You're just saying go read And then you've got this

718
00:48:32.159 --> 00:48:38.960
thing talking to your family members. But you know, and

719
00:48:39.320 --> 00:48:42.159
this is you know, That's just why I am so

720
00:48:42.239 --> 00:48:46.079
excited about your product because I know the people involved.

721
00:48:46.239 --> 00:48:50.119
I talk with you all and I understand you know

722
00:48:50.199 --> 00:48:54.239
your basis, I understand your truth, I understand your reasons,

723
00:48:54.719 --> 00:48:59.480
and I understand you care. And that's that's what's important.

724
00:48:59.559 --> 00:49:02.679
It's more than just having a product out there. It's

725
00:49:02.719 --> 00:49:06.400
about you really actually want to make a difference, and

726
00:49:06.519 --> 00:49:11.079
that's truly important. Boy, this has just been an amazing

727
00:49:12.039 --> 00:49:18.639
conversation and I'm just excited and I'm just happy.

728
00:49:18.320 --> 00:49:18.760
To have you.

729
00:49:19.239 --> 00:49:25.119
So tell people where they can get that Bully Buddy

730
00:49:25.400 --> 00:49:29.079
so they can start feeling safe and empowered and all

731
00:49:29.079 --> 00:49:29.360
of that.

732
00:49:29.920 --> 00:49:34.400
Yeah, So you just go to bullybuddyai dot com. You

733
00:49:34.440 --> 00:49:36.599
can add it to your home screen on your phone

734
00:49:37.320 --> 00:49:39.559
and then you just click and you can sign up.

735
00:49:39.639 --> 00:49:43.480
It's ten dollars a month and you can get access

736
00:49:43.559 --> 00:49:48.159
to Bully Buddy, Bully Buddy Elementary School, Bully Buddy Middle School,

737
00:49:48.199 --> 00:49:52.679
and Bully Buddy High School for that ten dollars a month. Yeah,

738
00:49:52.719 --> 00:49:55.840
and it's twenty four to seven so whenever you need support,

739
00:49:56.000 --> 00:49:56.800
it is there.

740
00:49:57.400 --> 00:50:01.920
Oh wow, that's very very very very important. Well, I

741
00:50:02.119 --> 00:50:04.159
just want you to know this has just been a

742
00:50:04.199 --> 00:50:08.920
great conversation. I have loved it. You know you'll be

743
00:50:08.920 --> 00:50:12.559
be coming back when you get your neurodivergent.

744
00:50:13.719 --> 00:50:17.039
Yeah, well you have been running well, yes.

745
00:50:16.840 --> 00:50:20.360
Yes, because I feel very strongly about that topic. Just

746
00:50:20.400 --> 00:50:23.639
as well. You just can't ignore a whole society of

747
00:50:23.679 --> 00:50:28.119
people because someone who did not have understanding come out

748
00:50:28.239 --> 00:50:33.079
with a comment and you know, stigmatized everything. And so

749
00:50:33.159 --> 00:50:40.519
we've got to unstigmatize and give yeah education. So thank

750
00:50:40.559 --> 00:50:44.039
you too for being here, and thank you audience for

751
00:50:44.119 --> 00:50:48.760
tuning in today at a Sharp Outlook. We're here every

752
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Monday at eleven am Eastern time eight am Pacific time.

753
00:50:54.239 --> 00:50:58.960
And I know you have learned a lot, and I

754
00:50:59.119 --> 00:51:07.639
always say stay informed. I want to thank you for

755
00:51:07.800 --> 00:51:11.119
joining us on a Sharp Outlook. We have been informed

756
00:51:11.239 --> 00:51:14.639
and energized to take the next steps. We have posted

757
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links to websites and videos to learn more on today's topic.

758
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Please join us again next week for another thought provoking

759
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conversation right here on key for HD Radio and Talk

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