March 16, 2026

Foster Kids - Olympic Angels

Foster Kids - Olympic Angels
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Season 1

Foster care is a temporary living arrangement for children who cannot safely live with parents or other family for a period of time. They protect the child from abuse, neglect, abandonment, unsafe conditions, including addiction, violence and trauma. Courts and child protection are involved as a last resort. The goal is to keep children safe and cared for by providing a stable and loving home, while everyone works toward the best long-term plan for the child, including unification with family.

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Hello, and thank you for tuning in to a Sharp

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Outlook on pay for HD radio and Talk or TV.

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I am Angela Sharp, your host our arm chair discussions

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with industry experts will give you the steps, tools and

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information to be successful in business and to prepare you

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to be your best self. Hello, I'm Angela Sharp, and

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thank you for joining us here at a Sharp Outlook.

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Today we're going to talk about foster children and that

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they have an organization called Olympic Angels that are here

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in this country to give assistance to foster parents. Foster care,

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as you know, is a temporary living arrangement for children

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who cannot safely live with parents or other family guardians

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for a period of time. They protect the child from abuse, neglect, abandonment,

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unsafe conditions including addiction, violence, and trauma. Most of the time,

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courts and child protective agencies are involved as a last resort.

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The goal is to keep the children safe and cared

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for by providing a stable and loving home while everyone

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works toward the best long term plan for the child,

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including unification with the family when possible or another permanent plan.

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Foster parents take care of the daily needs such as

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food and school and health and emotional support and activities

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to keep the children safe and warm and feeling that

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they're being loved and feeling safe. Foster care doesn't end

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with just a roof over their heads, though, and food

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to eat. Both the children and the foster parents need

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a break and where can they go for wholesome and

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healthy reprieve My guest will share information on where foster

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parents can go to get the needed help. Today, I

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have Tasha Fitzgerald who is the executive director of Olympic

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Angels here in the state of Washington. I'd like to

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invite you to join me.

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Tasha, Hi, thank you, I appreciate having me on today.

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Oh I have been a foster parent of four beautiful

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teen teens and one child, and I'll tell you when

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I saw that this organization was there. I was like,

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I need to share this information with everyone because being

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a foster parent and going through sometimes just the overwhelming

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amount of work that is involved and needing a break,

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and the kids want a break from me too. They

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need to have a place to go, you know, that

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is safe. They can see other children, they can have activities,

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they can interact with someone younger than me, so they

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can have fun and at least all that energy. So

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I just feel, you know, just blessed to be able

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to have you here to share this with others that

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are listening. First off, I wanted to ask why was

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the Olympic Angels started.

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Thank you, Well, it's not just Olympic Angels. We actually

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are a national network and there are eighteen Angel chapters

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across the United States and the goal is to hit

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every metropolitan city by twenty fifty, which is honest around

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the corner. So Olympic Angels, though, is set in the

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Olympic Peninsula in Washington, and we are a rule chapter.

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We're a little bit different in the way that we

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don't have as much access or readily available resources as

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some of our bigger metropolitan cities, and so our founder

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Morgan Hannatt set out to say, you know, we know

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that foster care is everywhere. We know that trauma exists

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in foster care, either before and even just being removed

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from a home rather no matter the cause or the need,

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that's a traumatic experience in itself. So we we create

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some trauma in the system, and Olympic Angels really exist

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to connect people, to rebuild a village around our fostering

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families and youth and children experiencing foster care. And through

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that village, we're building these deep relationships that helps offset

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trauma and create protective factors and build resilience into not

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just our youth and children, but the caregivers, our volunteers,

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our community as a higher hole.

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Oh that's so wonderful. I love this the way you

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said a village, because it does take a village. It

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takes a community for children to grow, to grow up

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and have that homelistic, you know, lifestyle that encompasses so many,

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so many different things. And as like I said, being

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a foster parent, foster care is kind of a heavy

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burden to carry alone. I was alone as a foster parent,

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but then some foster families have their own children and

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so there's just you know, even more burden there. And

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you know, and you have to remember the kids didn't

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enter this care because they did something wrong. Caregivers are

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doing sacred hard work and often doing it isolated. And

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I want to say, from the bottom of my heart,

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all of you that have become foster parents, blessings to

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you that you would give so much love for someone

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who really needs it more than anyone. It's just so

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blessed of you to make that sacrifice, and I just

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want to say thank you, thank you, very very much.

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So well. Does Olympic Angels provide support.

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I'm so glad you asked that, and I really want

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to build on what you just said. You know, just

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talking about the village. When you were saying that, I

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thought it's good to know that on average, our youth

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and care change placements or change homes up to seven

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times within two years, and with each change can come

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a delayed development. And academics we see behavioral challenges social

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emotional challenges as well. And so I can remember one

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of our youth who were in care. They who was

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in care when he got his love box, and a

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love box here on the Olympic Peninsula is a group

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of people and other places. It may be one to

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two people who come together to support an entire household,

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so everyone that is under this roof, rather it be

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a kinship, caregiver, Grandma Auntie and other children in the home,

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so everyone, we want everyone to know they're they're seen,

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they're heard, and we're going to show up for them.

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And that can look a lot of different ways. It

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can look like dropping off a mill. It can look

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like taking a youth to their soccer practice or helping

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to get them involved in other sports or extracurriculars. And

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it can be going to the park, coming over for

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a game night. It can also be just calling up

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a caregiver and being a non judgmental listening ear just

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letting them say the things they need to say, because

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it is a lot, Angela, and you've spoken to that

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a little bit. It's a lot for a caregiver. So

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to just know that they say the things that need

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to be said and just let it go to somebody

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is quite amazing. Well, this one youth that we had

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in care, you did change face challenging behaviors in the

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school and after school care, you know, and a caregiver

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is getting a phone call every day or being suspended

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from after school care, which puts a bit of a

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hardship on our caregivers. And so once this youth had

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their love box around him, we started to see changes

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in all of that and he knows, now, wow, my

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community shows up for me. People care for me, and

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they are here to cheer me on and see me

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do well. And so a year later, this youth was

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the youth who is showing students around when they're new

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to a school. He gets to be their introductory coach,

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if you will, and is winning leadership awards from after

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school care. And that's amazing. That's just a complete turnaround,

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you know. And that is not only a relief for

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a caregiver, but it's changing this child's trajectory. He's seeing

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that people really do care. They're going to show up

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for me. And I can do this. I have the

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confidence and the ability to just be the amazing and

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child that I am and reach my fullest potential.

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Yes, and I can, you know, tell you more about

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some of the emotions that they have, because the children

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that I had, and they come in with their emotions crushed.

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They don't feel any value of themselves. They call themselves stupid.

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They do you know, I'm no good. I mean, they

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just have so many negative things that they now have

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attached to who they are. And so I was grandma

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because I'm an older woman, and so I said, you know,

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and I had these little signs peace, love, empowerment and

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all these little things, and I would point to them

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and said, these are the words we use in this household.

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We don't say we're stupid, because there's no such thing

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as being stupid. And I just would have to go

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on and on and on and change their language so

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they were actually speaking words that I can achieve, that

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I can do this. They were behind in their classes.

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They were like two years behind their classes. And I

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went to the school and I talked to the teachers.

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I said, these are bright kids, but they don't know it.

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And I really need you to help me out, and

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I need you to give them the extra classes, the

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extra courses, whatever it takes, but I want them to

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graduate on time. And we worked hard for those two

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or three years, and my boy and my two girls

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they graduated. They wore their caps down.

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That's amazing.

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It was just so that the community that helped me

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that agreed that this was possible, and they worked with me,

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and it was every day they were giving me the

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assignments and everything, and those children, they worked really hard

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because they really did see that, wow, I'm not stupid,

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I can do this. And they got their grades and

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they graduated in the year they were supposed to. And

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it was just so amazing that those people would even

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put that energy in to help me push them through

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so that they can feel successful, be successful. So it

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really it takes people that care, and thank you for

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all of them, all those volunteers you get that actually

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care and want to see others have an ability to

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live their dreams. One of in fact, it was one

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of the girls. She wanted to work on cars. She

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ended up going to text school to learn how to

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fix cars. That was her dream. And I'm like, you

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don't want to be a nurse, No, no, I want

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to fix cars. I'm like, well, you go for it, girl,

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you just go for it. So it was just an

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amazing experience, you know, and then I.

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So much.

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Yeah, just the Olympic Angels is there to bring consistency

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and relational community and support, you know, and the thing

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is for all of those who don't understand the foster

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care system. It's not there to replace their normal life

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or anything. It's there to strengthen the families. It's there

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to strengthening the children while you as the parents who

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may have made some bad decisions or you're in a

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trauma and you have gone to you know, taking drugs

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or alcohol or different things to maybe you know dead

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in your pain. You can't have the children in that environment.

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So it's just temporary. Well, everybody is able to heal,

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So I want to make that clear. No one's trying

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to replace anyone. They're just here to maybe come in

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and show up and create a steady community for these kids.

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Why does all of that matter, Well.

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What when youth are in care, it is they have

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a higher likelihood and later in their adult lives of

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facing homelessness after aging out of extended foster care, or

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dealing with and cars duration, early pregnancy, there's and mental

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health challenges, and so all of this matters. Community matters,

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relational support matters because it completely changes the trajectory. And

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again I do want to emphasize that not every youth

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is going to face this, not every just like not

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every every other caregiver is going to face this as well. However,

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when we can really pull in people, a consistency of

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those people showing up changes the trajectory. So if we

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do have a youth and we have another program called

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the Dare to Dream program, which is a one to

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one mentorship, So a positive, healthy adult is connected with

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a child who chooses them and they choose the child,

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and or sorry, the child chooses them and they choose

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the child. And when they're connected through this mentorship, the

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mentor is an advocate for those things to happen, to

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help a child graduate on time, to become a cheerleader,

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to be in the backgrounds helping them to navigate life.

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And so that just changes at all because without that relationship,

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a youth could continue a path that you know, with

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hardship is not beneficial for them, the most beneficial for them.

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And so and the truth is we all need a cheerleader,

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we all need that mentor. And so when we put it,

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when we put someone with what our nation calls the

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most vulnerable population in the United States, we're doing everyone

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a We're just we're doing everyone a positive of making

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a positive change for everyone, including our volunteers. Because that voluntary,

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really taking the lessons that I have learned and being

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able to say to my mentor let me tell you

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all the things I did. I mean to teach you

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the things that I wish someone had told me to

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make my life easier. It's just such an amazing thing

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to have for everyone.

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Oh yeah, it really is. And you know, helping people understand.

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Without this help, like you said, they could end up

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facing homelessness, end up going from you know this home

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to being incarcerated nobody. I mean that just takes all

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of their hope away. And you know, yes, the removal

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is traumatic, and you hear it from the children. You know,

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you hear it the tears and the hunger to be

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with their parents and different things like that. In fact,

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to be honest, I did break some of the rules.

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Eye contacted the parents because I wanted to know just grandma.

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But you are mom and dad, and I really need

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you to straighten it up. I need you to clean

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it up. I need you to care enough to want

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them back, and you have to do some things to

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get that opportunity. They need you. No, no, no, they

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don't need me. Yes they do, and you better not

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say it again or I'm getting in a car and

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I'm coming down. We're gonna have a face to face talk.

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And you're not gonna like it because I could hear

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the I could hear the hurting. They still love their parents.

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No matter what went on, those children still love their parents.

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And so one of the things would be great is

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while we're getting a community for those children, get a

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community for those parents. They probably have gone through trauma

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and they're just acting out what they the pain that

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they have and they need somebody to be honest and

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truthful and maybe even a little firm and say it's

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time for you to get it together and just to

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make the story the way it should be. Yes, I

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did contact them, Yes I was a little firm with them.

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But I want you to know those parents, they gave

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up the addiction, they got jobs, they got an apartment,

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and they were able to go and be with their

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parents when they left foster care. And I want you

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to know that's another road that we need to start

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considering someone who really feels that passion and understands that

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we need another nonprofit organization for the parents because they

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need healing too. I just have to throw that out there.

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Well, idea. I get it. I get it, and especially

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it's not uncommon that there are generational occurrences that lead

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to children in care, and so I always think, oh

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what if, what if community? What if there was a

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village around this family before it got there to this point.

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And so something that is unique about our Love Boxes

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and our Dare to Dream program is that once a

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match is made when a youth is in care, should

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reunification happen and should a parent prefer this? We do

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ask our volunteers to follow the youth into the home.

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And I think that that really is a helpful connection.

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It's it's.

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Right kids that love their parents, it doesn't matter the

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background that they came from. That was there, that was

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their normal. They didn't know anything other other than that.

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And so when they're you know, way by strangers so much,

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it happens. That's where that traumatic event comes in when

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it's in care, When children are in care, So when

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we have someone who has been consistent for twelve months

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or eighteen months showing up for a youth and it's

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time to go back home, a lot of times kids

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look to that volunteer or to that mentor just to

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help guide them and fulfelt safety, and so when they're

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allowed to be a part of this new household, I

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think that it's a really important view for the parents

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to have too, to say, oh, my goodness, community does exist.

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Community wants to see me successful and they want to

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my child successful. And so I really do think it's

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really important that it be a holistic approach and support.

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Yeah, so how often, I mean, how often can foster

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parents actually participate in the program. Is it something one

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time or I'm.

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So glad you're asking that. So we do ask for

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a twelve month commitment. We're very intentional about who we're

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matching together. We want there to be a shared capacity,

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shared interest, shared goals, and so we ask in our

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love box that people show up at least monthly and

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dare to dream this a month. However, it's not uncommon

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for people to be showing up each week, depending on

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a caregiver's capacity as well, you as can probably speak

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to people you had to talk to in a day

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and help organize to get your youth where they needed

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to be as far as whether it be academics or

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visiting a doctor, a dentist, a therapist. In addition to extracurriculars.

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So that's where a lot of caregivers either one more person.

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It can be a lot to talk, or it can

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be Okay, I have this person to call on and

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help me when I need it. And so it's really

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about that capacity, and it's just nice to know that

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you have someone waiting in the wings, or a group

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of people waiting in the wings, available and ready to

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help you with that. So again monthly for twelve months

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for the Love Box, and twice a month for a

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year in Dare to Dream. However, however, when I was

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talking about how intentional we are, the hope is that

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these matches stay so solid that even when we're not

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overseeing them in an official capacity, it's as if our

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volunteers became chosen family. Even when we're not in the picture.

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We want our families and youth to know that community

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still there. It's not just something sign up for and

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then when it's done, it's done. It's we're signing up

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for this relationship, and should we really kick it off,

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Let's let it be a lifetime occurrence. Let's let's grow

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up and continue to show up for these families and

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for our children and youth.

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Wow, that is that is incredible to be you know what,

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like I said, I wish I had that when I

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was a buster parent, because you know, they were teenagers

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and they wanted to do certain things, and you know,

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I'm working also while I'm you know, rearing these children,

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and so it was a heavy load, and I can,

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I can you know, empathize with some of the foster

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parents who are feeling that burned out or whatever, and

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so being able to have a resource where they can

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have a chance to rest, a chance to maybe do

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some personal things on their own. I think that is

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really exciting that you offer those two programs for them

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to just be able to just breathe a little bit,

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because you know, it may extend them wanting to be

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foster parents, because when you end up having such a

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rough time and so much you know, drain and you

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burn out, you drop from the program and every foster

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parent is needed because there's generally not enough foster parents,

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so one of them wanting to drop out don't want

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that happening. So you know, that's that's really super Yeah, definitely.

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You know, on average, fifty of license foster homes quit

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within the first year. And I do think that it

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is because it's it is a lot to take on,

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and we once we're in it, we don't know it

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until what we're living in, and so once we're in it,

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we see the load and especially like you mentioned, working

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full time.

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Wow. So when we can help as a community come

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in and through our programs wanting to build not just

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that relational permanence, but the placement stability. When we know

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that because we're showing up and we're here for a family,

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they're going to continue to keep their license and continue

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to open their youth and children. Gosh, what a difference

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that makes and what a way to work together and

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support one another.

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Yeah, definitely, Like I said, it's definitely something that I

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can understand and relate with. And remember it was a

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few years back. It was two thousand and seven and

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I had them for like two three years. Yeah, it

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was a long journey, a very long journey. And there

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are good days, there are bad days. You know that

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they've already gone through trauma, and then they go to

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school and they have to deal with bullying, and then

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they're coming home and you're going to go back through

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the whole cycle of trying to get them to you know,

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feel good about themselves. And so I mean I had

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to go to the school and say this behavior that

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you're permitting going on in the school, it's not going

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to be tolerated. I'm going to contact, you know, someone

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national to make sure that you're upholding your responsibility of

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protecting children. So you make this stop, or I'm going

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to I'm going to be a real problem for you

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here at the school because I'm not going to have

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my children bullied. They've been through enough. And you know what,

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by the time I got home, I heard that the

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principal had gotten on the speaker and said we're getting

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ready to have an assembly and he said, these are

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things we're not going to tolerate here at the school. So,

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like I said, I really appreciate all of them understanding

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what we're dealing with and what's going on and being

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you know, willing to do their best to make sure

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that the children were safe. And then they succeeded and

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you know, different things like that. So when when the

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community shows up, like you're showing up, the foster parents

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are showing up, and other you know, resources are showing up.

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What statistics you know, find a word on that are

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you seeing that there's more success with the foster children

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when they have that support.

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Or absolutely absolutely so, we do have. We run a

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survey every year and I am excited to say that

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we have really positive outcomes, not just here at Olympic Angels,

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the nationwide in our caregiver saying yes, this has helped

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me be more stable in this placement, keep this youth

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in my home longer, or to help me just overcome

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even my own secondary trauma, knowing that I have someone

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in my corner, because again it is about the caregiver

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as well, and so and we have you know, even

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our volunteers in the community that is coming alongside these

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families have said, oh, I didn't realize what what foster

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care really fully was, and so now I have a

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deeper understanding of how it affects our youth, how it

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affects our entire community. And I definitely want to be

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a part of that change and show up for a

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person and really be their advocate, and really be that

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person who says you're valuable, you are worthy, and I

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want to walk along side you in this life and

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guide you and let you guide me, because it's never

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a one way street.

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Is it. Absolutely certain.

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I'm certain you've you've carried some lessons out of out

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of your experience as well.

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Yeah. Absolutely. And the one thing no one ever talks

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about is the emotions that the foster parent goes through

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feeling inadequate, because, like you said, you don't know what's

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going to happen until they show up, and then you know,

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you you've kind of analyze, oh, yes, I'll be doing this, this, this,

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this and this, and then you you end up with

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maybe a lot more trauma, a lot more acting out,

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a lot more difficulty than what you ever anticipated. And

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then you began going through emotional feelings and things like that,

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feeling down and feeling like you're inadequate. Oh no, I'm

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not competent enough to do this. Oh you know, all

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of these self doubts that you have because a lot

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of times it's because you're tired and you need to

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rest or, you know, or maybe just be able to

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talk it out with someone who can give you some advice,

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you know, and encourage you. You're doing fine. It's just

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it's a slow walk. It's not a run, it's not

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a race. It's a very very slow walk that starts

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with a crawl. And you have to be aware of that.

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But just having that encouragement that you're doing fine, it's

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going to be okay for the foster parents is really

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great that you're there to do that to encourage them,

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you know, because with a fifty percent turnover, and I

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can relate. I can hear it because we used to

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have the foster parent meetings and we would hear, you know,

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just the devastating things that we're going on and how

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the foster parent was like, I just can't do this,

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I just can't do this, and then imagine, oh, now

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this child has to be moved again. So that's going

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to throw more self doubt on them because the foster parent,

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you know, it's gonna you know, couldn't handle it and

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things like that. And so having you guys there, thank you,

469
00:32:24.680 --> 00:32:30.000
angels to hell a lot.

470
00:32:31.319 --> 00:32:34.039
I'm really glad that you are sharing that because the

471
00:32:34.920 --> 00:32:39.720
caregiver side of the truth, their truth is that they

472
00:32:39.960 --> 00:32:45.480
often feel invisible. And that makes sense, right because who

473
00:32:45.559 --> 00:32:48.680
is alongside them and saying, how can I help you?

474
00:32:49.599 --> 00:32:51.759
What is your brand of milk? Can I I'm at

475
00:32:51.799 --> 00:32:54.000
the store. Can I please just grab your favorite brand

476
00:32:54.000 --> 00:32:56.400
of milk or your favorite paper tiles and drop them

477
00:32:56.400 --> 00:33:00.279
off on your porch. I'm going to show up for

478
00:33:00.319 --> 00:33:05.839
them in that way and be seen is so life changing.

479
00:33:07.480 --> 00:33:10.839
We do carry that secondary trauma. There is a high

480
00:33:11.039 --> 00:33:14.240
emotional load, like you're referring to. You know, you have

481
00:33:14.400 --> 00:33:16.720
youth coming into their home, your home that may have

482
00:33:16.799 --> 00:33:21.240
big behaviors or you know, they're they're working out some

483
00:33:21.319 --> 00:33:26.119
of their social emotional situations and that's a lot. That's

484
00:33:26.160 --> 00:33:29.680
a lot for a child and uh and to be

485
00:33:29.799 --> 00:33:33.240
working with them. And I think what I hear a

486
00:33:33.319 --> 00:33:37.400
lot too from caregivers is that it's isolating. It's an

487
00:33:37.400 --> 00:33:43.920
isolating experience. And so would you have someone who is

488
00:33:45.119 --> 00:33:48.519
like you mentioned in the beginning, we have them background checked,

489
00:33:48.799 --> 00:33:53.480
They're they're completely background checked, fingerprinted, ready to go. We

490
00:33:53.720 --> 00:33:59.240
have them training in trust based relational intervention and on

491
00:33:59.319 --> 00:34:02.240
the science of hope. So when we have people who

492
00:34:02.319 --> 00:34:09.800
are coming in knowledgeable, yes, I just wow, and bringing

493
00:34:09.840 --> 00:34:16.079
their own experiences into their own life trajectories, coming in

494
00:34:16.119 --> 00:34:18.960
and saying, hey, do you know what I had when

495
00:34:19.000 --> 00:34:21.480
I was a youth that really helped me? Or hey

496
00:34:21.599 --> 00:34:23.559
do you know this lesson I learned when I was

497
00:34:23.599 --> 00:34:28.599
a kid. Can I share this with you it is.

498
00:34:28.840 --> 00:34:33.800
It is changing again, not just for the the youth,

499
00:34:33.880 --> 00:34:36.639
but for the caregivers. And it's not uncommon in our

500
00:34:36.679 --> 00:34:41.719
groups we see former caregivers being party saying you know,

501
00:34:41.760 --> 00:34:44.199
maybe that wasn't but this is and this is what

502
00:34:44.280 --> 00:34:46.480
I know, and this is how I can support the community.

503
00:34:46.920 --> 00:34:51.000
Yes, absolutely, you know, I've just you know, said, my

504
00:34:51.039 --> 00:34:55.679
mind is going back to those days. I'm not sure

505
00:34:55.719 --> 00:34:59.519
how my name got out, but whenever a foster parent

506
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:04.480
he needed a break, their children always got dropped off

507
00:35:04.480 --> 00:35:08.920
at my house. So I had a lot of groups

508
00:35:08.920 --> 00:35:12.920
of children that showed up and then I ended up

509
00:35:12.960 --> 00:35:19.440
somehow being considered a therapeutic foster parent. And my last

510
00:35:19.719 --> 00:35:26.840
foster child had multiple personalities. I mean to point, the

511
00:35:27.239 --> 00:35:35.039
voice changed, his demeanor would change. That was probably the

512
00:35:35.039 --> 00:35:38.079
most challenging thing I've ever experienced in my life with

513
00:35:38.159 --> 00:35:41.400
a child. And he had been passed around so many

514
00:35:41.480 --> 00:35:47.320
times because you know, some of the personalities that he had,

515
00:35:48.159 --> 00:35:52.280
you know, were dangerous. The way he would speak. And

516
00:35:53.079 --> 00:35:56.119
I'm talking about a child that's like eight years old,

517
00:35:56.599 --> 00:36:03.440
not a teenager, this tiny little child, and so you know,

518
00:36:03.559 --> 00:36:05.639
I would kind of talk with him and I'd say,

519
00:36:06.239 --> 00:36:10.440
you know, Grandma's house isn't big enough for all of

520
00:36:10.480 --> 00:36:12.639
your friends to come, so you're going to have to

521
00:36:12.760 --> 00:36:16.599
leave your friends outside. And that's how I kept the

522
00:36:16.719 --> 00:36:23.280
other personalities from showing up and acting out. I respected

523
00:36:23.360 --> 00:36:28.199
and recognized that they were there, but I said, they're

524
00:36:28.280 --> 00:36:30.519
not allowed to come in the house, and they're not

525
00:36:30.599 --> 00:36:34.079
allowed to talk here in this house. So if you're

526
00:36:34.079 --> 00:36:35.880
going to talk with your friends, you have to talk

527
00:36:35.920 --> 00:36:39.519
with them outside, but you can't talk with them in here, because,

528
00:36:39.599 --> 00:36:42.000
like I said, some of them had threatened the other

529
00:36:42.119 --> 00:36:47.119
foster parents. And so he ended up in my home.

530
00:36:47.800 --> 00:36:53.960
But I ended up not being able to handle him

531
00:36:55.320 --> 00:36:58.480
for a long period of time, and I had to

532
00:36:59.239 --> 00:37:02.360
take him back to the foster care center. He cried

533
00:37:02.480 --> 00:37:05.639
so so much, Grandma, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry,

534
00:37:06.320 --> 00:37:12.719
but he had been he had been brutalized, and so

535
00:37:13.719 --> 00:37:17.559
he probably took on all these personalities just to survive.

536
00:37:19.320 --> 00:37:22.480
But I had to take him back, and he had been,

537
00:37:23.920 --> 00:37:29.000
you know, in so many foster homes. The children's homes

538
00:37:29.039 --> 00:37:32.960
said that would I would be their last, his last

539
00:37:33.360 --> 00:37:37.159
time out, and I feel so sad about that, but

540
00:37:38.000 --> 00:37:40.719
I felt inadequate. I didn't have anyone to help me,

541
00:37:41.400 --> 00:37:46.800
and I couldn't handle him. I couldn't, you know, change

542
00:37:46.840 --> 00:37:49.920
the behavior because it was something that needed more than

543
00:37:50.039 --> 00:37:53.639
just my love and my attention. And I accept that,

544
00:37:54.480 --> 00:37:56.920
but it still breaks my heart because I didn't know

545
00:37:56.960 --> 00:37:58.639
he would not be able to get out until he

546
00:37:58.679 --> 00:38:04.360
aged out. I feel badly about that. But sometimes we

547
00:38:04.559 --> 00:38:06.960
just can't solve all the problems and we have to

548
00:38:07.360 --> 00:38:12.519
recognize that and ask for help and trying to get

549
00:38:12.559 --> 00:38:16.840
that help. And like I said, if someone was there

550
00:38:16.960 --> 00:38:19.599
even just for me to talk it out and say

551
00:38:19.679 --> 00:38:23.039
this is what's happening, it's too much, you know, having

552
00:38:23.039 --> 00:38:25.360
a picking because he's out there kicking and you know,

553
00:38:25.440 --> 00:38:28.119
acting out, and me having pick him up and carry him.

554
00:38:28.119 --> 00:38:30.199
Like I said, I was I was older at the time,

555
00:38:30.320 --> 00:38:32.320
and having to pick him up and carry him up

556
00:38:32.360 --> 00:38:35.599
the steps and different things. It's like, oh, this is

557
00:38:35.960 --> 00:38:39.159
physically not going to be healthy for me, and so

558
00:38:39.239 --> 00:38:41.360
I had to I had to do that. And I

559
00:38:41.559 --> 00:38:43.480
think about him and I hope he's well, and I

560
00:38:43.519 --> 00:38:49.320
hope he got healed and they resolved, you know, the schizophrenia,

561
00:38:50.079 --> 00:38:56.559
and but yeah, I definitely need that loving care and

562
00:38:56.920 --> 00:39:00.840
so do the Boster parents. And so it's like you say,

563
00:39:01.119 --> 00:39:05.719
not all children, but you know there they can use

564
00:39:05.840 --> 00:39:11.199
volunteers that can Some of you are therapists, you would

565
00:39:11.239 --> 00:39:16.360
probably be great, you know, volunteers and situations like that

566
00:39:16.519 --> 00:39:21.480
because you understand what's going on. So I'm going to

567
00:39:21.559 --> 00:39:23.960
say it, we need you to volunteer, We need you

568
00:39:24.079 --> 00:39:26.519
to take some time. We need you to be one

569
00:39:26.559 --> 00:39:29.760
of those angels that can step in and work with

570
00:39:29.800 --> 00:39:33.599
a child that actually really needs you, you know, something

571
00:39:34.400 --> 00:39:41.079
that can can make this whole community work even better.

572
00:39:43.719 --> 00:39:46.639
You will hear a lot of us say that not

573
00:39:46.760 --> 00:39:50.519
everyone is called to foster adopts, but everyone can play

574
00:39:50.559 --> 00:39:54.239
a part foster community. And that's exactly it, you know,

575
00:39:54.320 --> 00:39:58.079
whether it's joining a love box team, or mentoring a youth,

576
00:39:58.360 --> 00:40:03.559
investing in the mission, or just advocacy. And that's really important,

577
00:40:03.679 --> 00:40:07.360
getting the word out, spreading awareness to the community that

578
00:40:08.800 --> 00:40:13.519
you know, foster care exist and that can look a

579
00:40:13.559 --> 00:40:16.920
lot of different ways. And here's how we can come

580
00:40:16.960 --> 00:40:20.880
alongside one another as a group or as community and

581
00:40:21.360 --> 00:40:22.400
really show support.

582
00:40:24.239 --> 00:40:27.639
Right And like you said, everybody may not be able

583
00:40:27.679 --> 00:40:30.599
to be a foster parent, but I like the fact

584
00:40:30.679 --> 00:40:35.239
you have that love box you can join as volunteers,

585
00:40:35.800 --> 00:40:39.800
you know, maybe used to be a softball coach and

586
00:40:39.920 --> 00:40:43.320
you can go out these children now to play softball

587
00:40:43.440 --> 00:40:46.639
or just different things. You know, some of us old

588
00:40:46.719 --> 00:40:49.880
gray hairs, we don't have to sit at home watch

589
00:40:49.880 --> 00:40:52.280
TV all the time. You can go out and still

590
00:40:52.440 --> 00:40:55.880
be productive and change lives and do things. Come on,

591
00:40:56.559 --> 00:40:57.840
let's make this happen.

592
00:41:00.199 --> 00:41:03.480
I truly believe that everyone has a talent that they

593
00:41:03.519 --> 00:41:07.920
can lend to our organization. And maybe some people don't

594
00:41:09.440 --> 00:41:13.039
don't feel comfortable in working directly with children, and that's okay.

595
00:41:13.079 --> 00:41:16.000
I say that's okay too, because I remember back in

596
00:41:16.079 --> 00:41:18.599
November I was looking for a calligrapher. So there is

597
00:41:18.639 --> 00:41:22.960
something for everyone, and I absolutely believe in that you

598
00:41:23.119 --> 00:41:28.159
can volunteer with this organization in some capacity, whether it

599
00:41:28.320 --> 00:41:31.599
is to working directly with children, or being that person

600
00:41:31.760 --> 00:41:35.440
that is dedicated to a caregiver, or even working in

601
00:41:35.480 --> 00:41:41.920
the background helping me address envelopes for whatever need is

602
00:41:41.960 --> 00:41:45.719
that day. There really is a place for everyone. And

603
00:41:46.159 --> 00:41:49.440
what a relief that is, because when we are showing

604
00:41:49.519 --> 00:41:53.639
up for one another internally, I think that it shows

605
00:41:53.639 --> 00:41:57.079
externally as a whole as across a.

606
00:41:59.719 --> 00:42:05.159
Yeah. Yeah, absolutely, mentoring a youth, I mean right now.

607
00:42:05.199 --> 00:42:10.719
We could really use some mentors that have that capacity

608
00:42:11.280 --> 00:42:15.880
to work with our youth and mentor our youth and

609
00:42:16.440 --> 00:42:20.760
help mold and shape them to be able to say,

610
00:42:20.880 --> 00:42:23.440
you've got dreams, Let's see how we can help you

611
00:42:23.559 --> 00:42:26.599
reach those dreams. There's so much we could be doing.

612
00:42:28.280 --> 00:42:30.199
And I don't want to get on a soapbox, but

613
00:42:30.639 --> 00:42:32.880
some of the stuff we're going in, the energies we're

614
00:42:32.880 --> 00:42:37.400
putting out, they're not positive, and they are not you know,

615
00:42:37.599 --> 00:42:42.519
something that benefits anyone. But take that energy. Since you've

616
00:42:42.559 --> 00:42:45.440
got energy that you want to have a whole lot

617
00:42:45.480 --> 00:42:49.679
to say, then have something positive to say and mentor

618
00:42:49.760 --> 00:42:54.320
some youth, mentor someone who has gone through some trauma.

619
00:42:54.800 --> 00:43:00.000
You'd be surprised how much joy it brings to you

620
00:43:00.760 --> 00:43:06.320
to give to someone other than yourself. There's just nothing more.

621
00:43:07.320 --> 00:43:12.159
I mean, I'll tell you it's the most wonderful feeling, Tasha,

622
00:43:12.239 --> 00:43:16.320
to see the smiles on their faces, to see the

623
00:43:16.519 --> 00:43:20.800
happiness and the laughter, and to see them succeed. We

624
00:43:20.960 --> 00:43:23.760
all want to succeed. Some of us start at a

625
00:43:23.840 --> 00:43:29.840
different starting gait in this race called life, but it

626
00:43:29.880 --> 00:43:32.920
doesn't mean we can't go and help pull them forward.

627
00:43:33.039 --> 00:43:37.400
So they can meet that dream. Oh yes, mentor youth

628
00:43:37.559 --> 00:43:41.840
or by the way, since you got money, you're spending

629
00:43:42.639 --> 00:43:47.320
on things, yeah, that you probably don't even need and

630
00:43:47.360 --> 00:43:51.760
you probably don't even use. Think about investing it in

631
00:43:52.920 --> 00:43:58.599
a mission like this that changes lives, that fixes things.

632
00:43:58.920 --> 00:44:03.199
You know, give some money, I know you have some

633
00:44:03.280 --> 00:44:08.599
of that. You don't have the energy, I know you

634
00:44:08.679 --> 00:44:12.800
got some money. Help help these organizations so that they

635
00:44:12.840 --> 00:44:15.800
can do even more and they can expand even to

636
00:44:15.880 --> 00:44:20.280
more places, because, believe me, if there are children, there

637
00:44:20.320 --> 00:44:24.320
are some that do not have families, and so let's

638
00:44:24.400 --> 00:44:28.639
make things possible for them. I just have to say that, Okay.

639
00:44:28.440 --> 00:44:32.280
Oh, thank you, I appreciate it. You know, just like

640
00:44:32.360 --> 00:44:37.199
you were saying in volunteering gives so much back to yourself.

641
00:44:37.719 --> 00:44:41.159
I mean, and it really does science behind it. And

642
00:44:41.920 --> 00:44:44.079
if you don't have the time, then maybe that is

643
00:44:44.079 --> 00:44:47.639
how you can help help fund the mission, help help

644
00:44:47.760 --> 00:44:50.760
keep this going. And I think that that gives a

645
00:44:50.800 --> 00:44:54.199
lot of meaning to the money that we are earning,

646
00:44:54.280 --> 00:44:58.599
and meaning for our legacies as well and what we're

647
00:44:58.599 --> 00:45:03.079
standing behind. And so and I'm always for standing behind

648
00:45:03.119 --> 00:45:07.679
a better, more positive community. Absolutely.

649
00:45:08.760 --> 00:45:12.199
Yeah. Yeah, And as I was thinking about that, and

650
00:45:12.280 --> 00:45:15.280
you were talking about giving. You know, some of you

651
00:45:15.639 --> 00:45:22.280
are directors in organizations, you're CEOs in corporations, and sometimes

652
00:45:22.280 --> 00:45:27.800
you have like these fundraisers or money is given from

653
00:45:27.800 --> 00:45:31.920
the employees. Well, this is a very good cause to

654
00:45:32.199 --> 00:45:38.800
actually help society and change the trajectory of the lives

655
00:45:38.840 --> 00:45:43.440
of people who started out in it way behind the eball.

656
00:45:44.840 --> 00:45:48.920
Think about that when you're thinking, when you're picking a nonprofit,

657
00:45:48.960 --> 00:45:51.679
you're thinking about a mission that you would like to support,

658
00:45:52.079 --> 00:45:56.239
think about the lives you would change, and consider that

659
00:45:56.360 --> 00:46:00.400
being one of the donations that you that take in

660
00:46:00.400 --> 00:46:05.440
your organization. So one of the things I have learned

661
00:46:05.559 --> 00:46:11.960
that no foster family should walk alone. They should have

662
00:46:12.000 --> 00:46:12.800
your organization.

663
00:46:15.280 --> 00:46:19.199
Absolutely, absolutely, they should have our and the neighbors my

664
00:46:19.280 --> 00:46:25.239
book club, you know, are our other family members or

665
00:46:25.280 --> 00:46:29.960
a church family coming together and just being in this ticket,

666
00:46:30.159 --> 00:46:31.440
this work together.

667
00:46:31.800 --> 00:46:38.159
Truly, Yes, yes, I absolutely agree. Yeah, because we're better together, right,

668
00:46:39.000 --> 00:46:41.840
We're all better to get And just knowing that that's

669
00:46:41.880 --> 00:46:44.639
not only happening on the Olympic Peninsula, that it is

670
00:46:44.679 --> 00:46:49.519
happening in various places across our nation is so just

671
00:46:49.639 --> 00:46:52.000
it gives me a lot of hope. It really does.

672
00:46:52.079 --> 00:46:53.880
It adds a little pep of my stuff and gives

673
00:46:53.880 --> 00:46:56.639
me the spark in my eye to think, Wow, people

674
00:46:56.760 --> 00:46:59.000
are really out there. They really do want to learn

675
00:46:59.039 --> 00:47:01.840
about adverse child good effects. They want to learn about

676
00:47:02.239 --> 00:47:06.199
how to build resilience into others and themselves along the way,

677
00:47:06.880 --> 00:47:12.079
and and just help this entire community as and when

678
00:47:12.079 --> 00:47:13.760
I say community in this way, I mean as an

679
00:47:13.920 --> 00:47:14.480
entire nation.

680
00:47:14.840 --> 00:47:20.559
Wow, Yes, that's everything. Like I said, I mean just

681
00:47:20.679 --> 00:47:26.239
building the community and and and changing lifestyles and changing

682
00:47:26.440 --> 00:47:31.840
attitudes and everything. It's a winner. I mean, this is

683
00:47:31.880 --> 00:47:35.559
one of those win win. You get self satisfaction, but

684
00:47:35.760 --> 00:47:42.519
you also change the world with just volunteering or you know,

685
00:47:42.800 --> 00:47:48.119
giving to this mission that's out there. So Tasha tell

686
00:47:48.159 --> 00:47:53.199
our audience how to get in touch with Olympic Angels.

687
00:47:53.960 --> 00:47:56.360
If they're in the Pacific Northwest.

688
00:47:56.880 --> 00:48:00.480
Absolutely well. You can reach us directly by going to

689
00:48:00.519 --> 00:48:06.719
our website at Olympicangels dot org. Again that's Olympicangels dot

690
00:48:06.719 --> 00:48:10.960
o RG. Or you can call three six zero two

691
00:48:11.119 --> 00:48:15.360
zero seven for sixty six one. You'll reach me directly

692
00:48:15.519 --> 00:48:17.719
and I will get to you wherever you need to be.

693
00:48:19.559 --> 00:48:22.400
And would love to talk more, would love for people

694
00:48:22.440 --> 00:48:26.000
to explore our website, really dig into the program, see

695
00:48:26.000 --> 00:48:28.400
the work that we're doing and the changes that we're making.

696
00:48:31.519 --> 00:48:35.559
Absolutely please get in contact in it. It's life changing.

697
00:48:36.159 --> 00:48:39.119
And if you're on the Olympic Peninsula and you're listening

698
00:48:39.199 --> 00:48:42.199
to this and you know a family, your neighbor, maybe

699
00:48:43.079 --> 00:48:47.599
took in their grandchild recently, please please get them connected

700
00:48:47.639 --> 00:48:50.599
to us. And that is we want. We want to

701
00:48:50.679 --> 00:48:52.719
make that as verrier free as possible. So if it's

702
00:48:52.760 --> 00:48:54.920
a phone call, let it be a phone call. We're

703
00:48:54.960 --> 00:48:55.440
here for that.

704
00:48:56.119 --> 00:49:00.440
Absolutely, absolutely, So you know I'm going to put that

705
00:49:00.519 --> 00:49:05.079
out as something that my audience. You need to share

706
00:49:05.119 --> 00:49:09.320
this information with people that you know. We will be

707
00:49:09.400 --> 00:49:12.760
also sending out information so you can share it with

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others who can watch this live show and let people know.

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You don't have to be at home saying that you're

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bored or I don't have anything to do. There is

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a whole world of people out there that are meeting you.

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And since we are all here living together, we all

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should be caring about one another. And this is a

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way to care. And I love positive organizations like this.

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I love to see things that have the capacity of

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changing the world and changing lives, and especially people that

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are hurting. You have to understand when you're hurting, it's

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hard to get past that without a helping hand. And

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these angels here, a limping angels, are helping hands that

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help you get over the bridge and help and so

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that you can make it to the other side. So

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I'm saying, oh, please, please help. Thank you Tasha for

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being here. I have really enjoyed this conversation and I

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know our viewers and our listeners are ready to write

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this checks today. Thank you, Thank you for tuning in

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a Sharp Outlook. We're here every Monday at eleven am

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information for you to have more knowledge to make great

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decisions and whatever you do, stay informed. I want to

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thank you for joining us on a Sharp Outlook. We

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have been informed and energized to take the next steps.

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We have posted thanks to websites and videos to learn

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more on today's topic. Please join us again next week

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