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Oct. 12, 2026

Stepping Into Self-Love: Embracing Our Unique Selves

Stepping Into Self-Love: Embracing Our Unique Selves

Today we are joined by the inspiring Kiyoko Hairston, author of "Freeda’s Fabnificent Feet." She shares why it is important to teach our children to celebrate the things that make them different. A heart driven discussion about finding your footing in a world that often asks you to fit in. Hairston provides a narrative to counter feelings of inadequacy or "fitting in." She takes us on a journey of self-love, embracing our differences and loving the very features that make us uniquely special.

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Hello, and thank you for tuning in to A Sharp

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Outlook on K4HD Radio and Talk Or TV. I am

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Angela Sharp, your host. Our armchair discussions with industry experts

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will give you the steps, tools, and information to be

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successful in business and to prepare you to be your

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best self. Hello, and first off, I want to start

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by saying that I want to honor all of Indigenous people.

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Today is Indigenous Peoples Day, and I want to honor

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those that have come before us and thank them for

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their resilience, their fortitude, and their strength so that we

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can actually be here today.

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Thank you very much. And today, we're going to be

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talking about stepping into love. Embracing your unique self. There's

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so many people who may have different characteristics than others.

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And sometimes they're getting bullied. Sometimes they're getting laughed at

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and different things. But we have a guest today that's

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going to help us understand about that situation. So today

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on A Sharp Outlook, we're joined by the inspiring Kyoko Hairston.

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author of Frida's Fabnificent Feet. In this episode, we're going

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to dive deep into the power of storytelling and as

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a tool for childhood development and self-esteem. Kyoko shares the

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personal inspiration behind Frida, her book that she has written,

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the challenges of writing stories and that matter and why

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it is more important than ever to teach our children

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to celebrate the things that make them different. We should

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be seeking to be different from others because we are

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all destined with a specific purpose.

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So we are going to be different. We're going to

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have different characteristics.

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And so we're going to be talking about that, whether

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you are a parent, an educator, a or an inspiring author,

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join us for a heart-centered conversation about finding your footing

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in a world.

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That often asks you to just fit in.

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This book is positioned as a positive educational resource for

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parents and educators looking to foster healthy self-esteem in children.

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By highlighting physical uniqueness, Hairston provides a narrative that aims

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to counter feelings of inadequacy or just fitting in. The

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new children's book takes us on a journey of self-love,

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embracing our differences and loving the features that makes us

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uniquely special. We are so excited about having this conversation

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because as I, as a grandmother, well, it would really

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truly be told, I am a great grandmother. And I'm

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watching how the people in that generation are developing. And

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I'm here every Monday because I'm concerned about the development

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of our youth and of our children and them being

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able to aspire to become what is necessary to take

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this nation forward into the next generation, into the future,

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into the positivity that can happen. And so it's so

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important to have someone here who has written a book

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that helps our children to establish self-esteem. So I'd like

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to invite Kyoko to join us now so that we

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can have this discussion about You know, all the things

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that children need to do. Her literary work serves as

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a resource for teaching children about self-love. And that seems

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to be a major problem in our world today.

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People not having self-love. Hello. Good morning. It is great

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to see you. Good morning.

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How are you?

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Oh, doing great.

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Just excited to talk about this fabulous book that you

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have written. That's giving children a different attitude towards themselves.

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And they really need to have that. That self-love. So

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when those school bullies, and we all had to go

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through them, when they come around, they don't get offended

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or they don't get afraid or they don't get embarrassed,

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but they like push their chest out like, hey, you

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just wish you were me. That's what you need to

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tell them. You just wish you were me. Don't be jealous.

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Get your own unique something, something. But this is who

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I am. And I'm happy and proud about who I am. So, Frida,

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tell us about you and your journey and what brought

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you to write this just incredible story.

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Wait, did you just call me Frida?

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I'm sorry. I got Frida on the mind.

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I've been looking at all the videos about her and.

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She's just incredible. So it is kind of like you.

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I am Frida, but I just want to make sure

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I heard you right.

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You're not wrong underneath it all. The story is about me.

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So Kyoko is my government name. That's what's on my

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birth certificate, but yeah, I am. I'm sorry. So could

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you ask your question again? Cause I just want to

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make sure that I didn't lose track.

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Well, I was just, you know, I'd like to understand

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your background and what brought you to writing this book

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about self love, about embracing that.

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You are different. Because most people run from it.

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Most people hide from it because, you know, like I said,

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we have the bullies that make them feel uncomfortable.

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So what brought you to writing this story?

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Oh, wow.

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There's so much that led up to this. So I

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do have really big feet. I wear a size 11

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and a half. And, um, but there's, uh, so much

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more just trying to figure out where to start.

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Exactly. Um, how much do you want to hear?

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Well, there must've been something that actually, you know, you've got,

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you went through an experience growing up and things like that.

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You know, when I was very small, even at three

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years old, um, my feet were big for my age.

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Getting planted when I was really, really young.

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But, you know, they were just seeds initially.

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So I was still operating in a lot of confidence for.

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A long time. Yeah. Because I was an adorable little girl,

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if I do say so myself.

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There's a picture of me actually in the back of

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my book. And when the person was snapping the picture,

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he said, man, she's going to be tall. And I

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am tall and my feet clearly were an indication that

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that was going to happen.

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Now, that's not what happens to everybody, obviously.

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As I got older, you know, it was more adults

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roasting me.

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You know, in the front yard, in the driveway. Oh,

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she got some boats.

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Oh, she got some skis. Oh, I bet she can swim.

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You know, all that kind of stuff. And then other

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seats were whenever I went to get new shoes. Um,

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all the ugly shoes were in my size. So I

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would have to choose from orthopedic looking nursing shoes, you know,

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those real old school, you know, and then, um, My

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mom would give me a cute pair of shoes and

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I would just kind of stuff my foot in there

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and I wouldn't have any room to wiggle my toes around.

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I would just kind of say, oh, it feels fine.

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it actually made my feet ugly. I had corns and

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calluses and stuff. So they weren't just big. They were

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big and injured from wearing tight shoes, which just added

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another layer of insecurity.

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So that's kind of where it started. Yeah.

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Well, you know, and just think of so many children

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that go through all of these different things and those

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little seeds that they plant. they can end up growing

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and becoming something negative that this child is always fighting

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because they're feeling like they don't measure up.

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So even in our.

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Jesting or our joking or whatever, especially a child, we

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have to be conscious of what are we really putting

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in that child's spirit and that they're going to grow

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up with and they're going to you know be fighting

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for a long period of their time because You know,

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they don't know how to just embrace it and say, yeah, yeah,

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and I'm going to.

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So, you know, hey. But they don't know how to

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just turn it on and turn it off.

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And so, yeah, that probably really had an effect on you,

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had an effect along the way. Well, your book itself

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is talking about self-love and the importance of of embracing

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your individual differences. And it covers themes of inclusivity and

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self-acceptance and positioning. You know, the book is a tool

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for personal growth for children. So how, explain to the

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audience what your purpose and goal is in this book

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that you're writing.

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Oh, boy.

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Well, I feel like the world would be a better

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place if we all loved ourselves. And I know that

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can sound corny to some people, but how you feel

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about yourself colors how you treat other people many times.

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So if I love myself and I'm confident and I

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believe in myself, I'm walking in.

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A certain kind of power, right?

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That gives me the freedom to see the good in

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other people and to encourage and empower other people. So

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I believe it all starts with me and it all starts.

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With our children.

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You know, what we're messages we're allowing our children to absorb.

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And what we're intentionally pouring into them.

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they don't really have classes out there to teach you

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how to be parents. So everybody does what the previous

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generation was doing. And so sometimes things are said or done,

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probably not meaning harm, but it was done to them.

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So they just automatically do it to their children and

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don't understand the potential harm. And especially when, you know,

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if one of their peers, you know, hears about it, oh,

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my goodness, then it really becomes, you know, a target

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and can really, you know, be harmful for the children.

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Absolutely.

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So what was the aha moment that said you realize

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that Frida needed to be.

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To exist in.

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A world needed to be created, needed to be put

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out there. She needed to be known. Her voice needed

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to be heard. When was that aha moment?

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Um, you know, when I think about it, I feel

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like I had confidence in the story from the beginning. Um,

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I honestly, I feel like God was telling me that

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I was going to write children's books.

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Um, when I was in my twenties. And so that

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was just last year. No, just kidding. That was a

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really long time.

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And so I already, you know, when you feel that

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God has told you something, you're already coming to a

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certain level of confidence. So when the story started to,

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when I started to brainstorm the story, I already felt

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like it was a special story because it was touching

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my heart while I was working on it. And there

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were moments where I felt like I wanted to cry.

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And that's always a tell for me. If I'm feeling it.

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Other people are going to feel it.

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But then there's one really special moment.

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I have two elderly friends.

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That I have been looking after for a long time.

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And I took them on a trip to Myrtle Beach.

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And they were some of the first people that I

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read that first draft to.

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And, oh gosh. I'm not supposed to be crying this soon.

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But we were just like riding down the freeway. And

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one of them kept repeating, the favorite line from the

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book and the line is no one can fill my

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shoes yes and he just kept saying it over and

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over again and we're just riding.

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Down the freeway and it was like.

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The ideal day the sun is shining and the trees

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are swaying in the breeze and Every time he said it,

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I would just tear up because the words were no

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longer just on the page.

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He was back there really.

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Taking it in and living in it and saying it

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about himself.

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And he said it so many times.

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And I shed enough tears that I had to ask

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him to stop. I was like, I'm not going to cry.

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I'm not going to cry no more.

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But anyways, so I was like, stop it, please stop.

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But I really, I just really couldn't stand to shed

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another tear. And I just, and so that was really

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the moment where I could hear not just him saying,

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no one can fill my shoes.

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But I can.

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Also imagine children taking it on as a mantra as well.

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And that is what is important to me because I

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feel like children do get hit with negative seeds.

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When they're small. And I think that they're so brilliant

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when they're small. They're smarter than us when they're kids.

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And a lot of us have taken on all this

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programming from society and we get a little I'm sorry

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to say before the programming that we receive into the

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children and sometimes it's not positive.

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Plant a seed, getting in front of that and saying,

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you're unique, you're special. There's something about you that you're

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here to do that no one else can do just

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like you. And you need to embrace that and you

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need to protect that. And yeah, if anyone ever says

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something negative to you about who you are and your uniqueness,

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your individuality, you stand tall and who you are and

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know that no one can fill your shoes. And so

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it's just that I want children to carry with them

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for their entire.

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Life, hopefully.

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Absolutely.

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And this is what I love about it because right now, children,

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even adults, don't know their identity.

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They spend so much of their hours, their time, their day,

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their thoughts wanting.

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To Pretend to be somebody else who already has their mission,

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already has their purpose.

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They're living their purpose. They're living your dream. You can't

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become them. You have your own purpose. You have your

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own dream you're supposed to be seeking out, creating, moving towards.

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You have your purpose. Like she said, you have your shoes.

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Put your feet in your shoes and do you. That's

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just what they really need to know. And there's so

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many of them. They're trying to be some movie star.

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They're trying to be some singer. If you can sing,

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out-sing them other people you're up there Googling and thinking, oh,

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I want to sing like them. No, you need to

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sing like you because you are unique in your singing,

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your ability, your empathy in your songs, the emotion that

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you're going to bring because you're being you.

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It's going to out surpass who you're trying to be.

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Be you.

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It's so unique. Do you understand? And I'm going to

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get real deep here. The creator created you for a

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specific life. a specific purpose to do specific things that

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was going to touch specific people and you're out trying

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to do somebody else's job.

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Stop wearing somebody else's shoes and hat. Put your own

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hat on. Put your own shoes on.

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Fill them up because nobody can do you. Whatever was

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meant for you, nobody else can do it but you.

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And think of the people who are missing out because

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you haven't done you. And you're not doing you. And

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I'm talking to older people. You've spent so much time

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trying to be like the person at the church, the

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person at the school, the person on the stage. You're

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trying to be somebody that you weren't created to be.

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You were created to be you. You're lost. You need

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to find you. That's what needs to happen. Oh, my God.

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And that message is, I'm putting my shoes on. That

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even that even rocked me for a moment.

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Good.

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I mean, that is the experience that I've been having,

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even when I before the book was even out, I

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was so passionate about.

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The story.

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I was telling strangers that I would come across in

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advance and adults would say, I need to read that book.

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And it has actually happened that people that don't even

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have children have bought the book.

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And written reviews on Amazon.

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Man, I really wish I had this book when I

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was small and they would even think that it was

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serendipitous or, you know, a godsend that we even ran.

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Into each other. So it's been a blessing.

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Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely.

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One thing you, like, like you said, the one thing

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you have done, you're not just writing a story. You

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are building a philosophy. You are building an environment, right? that,

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oh my goodness, it's more. And now I'm starting to

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tear up. What you have been blessed to do is

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going to change so many children and people in this world.

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Thank you.

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Who knows what they would have been doing if Frida

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hadn't spoken up. Now they're getting some direction.

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That's how incredible this is.

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You know, just define, define fabulousness.

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Fabnificent.

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So it's a combination of fabulous and magnificent, but it's

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also something extra sprinkled in there, something that only you

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can bring.

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To the table. So that's basically what it is.

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To me, it means embracing your individuality and recognizing that

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you don't have to be someone else to be extraordinary.

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Right.

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Absolutely. Just be your authentic self.

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You know, I mean, when I started radio years ago,

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I thought.

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I've never done this. I'm an accountant. I'm an IT specialist.

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We're nerds. I can't be on radio talking.

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Somewhere along the line, years ago, I was on there

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and bringing about ideas and thoughts, and people were just

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really enjoying it.

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I thought, oh, my goodness, where is this coming from?

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But I had locked myself in.

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Into a little box that someone else said this is

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what you can only be because this is what you

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had your education in this is the only work you've

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ever done so you can't stretch out and be anything

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other than this and um i took that step and

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it was scary for me and i haven't stopped now

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it's not just radio now it's even tv.

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And so it's uh And who knows?

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You know, I'm just going to let it flow.

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That's right.

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And like I said, I had parents that were very encouraging.

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And my father told me he passed when I was 18.

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And he told me, he said, you can be whatever

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you want to be and don't let anyone ever stop

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you for doing you. Try different things, do different things,

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but do what you feel will make you happy. And even,

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you know, you spend so much time at work, you

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better enjoy what you're doing.

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If you don't, you're in the wrong place.

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Industry the wrong thing you're doing there's something else you're

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you were uh created to do and until you find

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that you're never going to find that fulfillment and so that.

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Is just uh yeah yeah.

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And so the language of children writing for kids is

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deceptively simple Or how do you balance fun with substance?

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You know, because a lot of people write children's stories and,

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you know, most people think children's stories is just all,

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you know, jokes and fun and, you know, things like that. But,

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you know, you've made it fun with a very serious topic.

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You know, how do you bring that together?

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That's a good question.

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So first, what I do is I just write the story.

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One thing many years ago I had to get over

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with writing is that I don't have to be afraid

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that something I'm going to write down is stupid.

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Right. Because a lot of times.

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The thing that I might second guess is the thing

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that has the gem that I need to drop, you know?

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So now I just get over it. And even if

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I record myself and I might even, I'd be alone

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in a room recording.

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Myself saying, all right, this probably sounds stupid, but I'm thinking.

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You know, and I'm also I have a background in acting.

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So a lot of the times I formed a habit

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when I have auditioned for things. Even when I leave

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the audition, I'm talking, I'm still in character and I'm

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saying things and I'm improvising. So I have brought that

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into my writing as well.

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So even if something doesn't end up in the book.

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It does make the story richer because I have all

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of this backstory. I know where Frida is from, when

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she was born, what her middle name is, you know,

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all these kinds of things. And so I just, you know,

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create all of these details about her. And then I also,

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like I said, I write the story and it could

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be preachy at first. But then, you know, I admit

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to myself, like, okay, this is not very fun, or

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this sounds like it's for adults or something like that.

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And so then I'm like, okay, I got to go

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back in here and put some jokes here, make up

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some words, and then let the message come through what

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the character is experiencing in the story.

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And so that's basically....

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How I work to hopefully cause children to connect with

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the characters because they see themselves in the character. And

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then they discover something about themselves along the way.

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Oh, wow. You have just taught me a lesson in writing.

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I have tried to write. These books have been wanting

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to do a series of stories for years. people that,

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and I'll just say for indigenous peoples that don't get

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to see their heroes, they don't see their heroes in

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the movies. They don't see their heroes on the TV.

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And so I was writing, I used to be a

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foster parent years ago and I had indigenous children and

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we would talk about that. And one of the thing is,

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is like, you know, Yeah, we see all these stories.

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We see all these stories, but where's our hero? And

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I thought, I'm going to write some stories with their hero.

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And it started out great, but I was trying to

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mix sci-fi in it.

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And with my.

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Technical background, I know it's going to be stupid.

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I'm getting ready to say something stupid. I'll just go

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ahead and confess that. I would sit there and analyze stories.

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The sci-fi portion of what I was writing, it's like, no,

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that's not how the moon goes. No, the atmosphere is

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spinning around. You remember your science, and I'm like, oh, gosh,

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I can't get this. I don't remember all that stuff.

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And it's like, I've been beating myself up because I

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was trying to make it analytical instead of just telling

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the story in a sci-fi world.

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It didn't matter. It's science fiction. But I... I haven't

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been able to get past that block. It's a question.

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Is it a, was it like a picture book or

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was it a different type of genre?

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Um, a longer format.

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Yeah, it's a longer format. It's like stories. And it

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was supposed to have these superheroes that were going to

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be coming about in this, um, in this story. And

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I was choosing children from different nations, um, around the world,

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the poorer nations, and they always had, they were a

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part of this whole sci-fi story that was going to

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be able to have heroes that was going to get

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rid of you know some of the poverty and some

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of the things that were going on and so that's

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where the heroes but it was going to be sci-fi

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and you know things coming from the sky and atmosphere

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in the world and all this stuff and i'm sitting

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up there discussing science with myself and so me myself

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and i could not agree.

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Write that first draft. And, you know, it's okay if

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it's flawed.

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To be honest with you, I started writing Frida's Magnificent

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Feet in 2020. And it was by 2025 that I

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had started writing it. finally gotten to the point of

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paying an illustrator. And even when I was submitting the

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book to the printer to be printed, I was like, wait,

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hold on. You know, something else came to me and

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it's very annoying for other people. But I was glad

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because the book wouldn't be what it is if I

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hadn't taken that long. So what I did is I wrote.

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The first draft.

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I had I have a lot of creative, talented friends.

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So I would read it to them. I would get

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notes and stuff. And then eventually when I thought it

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was ready, I was looking for a publicist.

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I ended up.

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With instead of a publicist, I ended up with a

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mentor who is an author who had already published traditionally.

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And then she gave me lots of notes and questions

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and things.

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And then I went back through and rewrote a lot.

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Of it and um it's so much better i thought

484
00:30:45.509 --> 00:30:48.569
it was great in fact other people thought it was

485
00:30:48.630 --> 00:30:50.819
great thought it was great too one of my friends

486
00:30:50.950 --> 00:30:53.980
moms is a founder of a charter school in new

487
00:30:54.019 --> 00:30:59.140
jersey and she thought the first draft would win an

488
00:30:59.200 --> 00:31:04.529
award and And now, and then five years later, I

489
00:31:06.339 --> 00:31:10.259
had changed the book so much since that first draft.

490
00:31:10.599 --> 00:31:14.359
So I would just say, be patient with yourself, write

491
00:31:14.400 --> 00:31:18.170
down whatever you're thinking, even the science stuff. And then

492
00:31:18.450 --> 00:31:22.170
what happened for me is I began to see, okay,

493
00:31:22.289 --> 00:31:25.990
a traditional picture book in my case has a certain

494
00:31:26.059 --> 00:31:29.660
amount of words and it has a certain pages and

495
00:31:29.680 --> 00:31:31.400
it has a certain amount of words.

496
00:31:31.220 --> 00:31:31.920
On the pages.

497
00:31:32.339 --> 00:31:36.349
So then when I get to the fine tuning, I

498
00:31:36.430 --> 00:31:38.210
realized I got to figure out how to.

499
00:31:38.190 --> 00:31:42.509
Get this point across with fewer words, you know?

500
00:31:43.069 --> 00:31:45.950
And so you just go through the different phases in

501
00:31:45.970 --> 00:31:46.750
the process.

502
00:31:46.910 --> 00:31:50.059
And then one day you'll have it all done. And

503
00:31:50.079 --> 00:31:53.759
you'll be like, wow, I'm actually, I can do this.

504
00:31:53.880 --> 00:31:55.940
And so I think, I think you could do it.

505
00:31:55.980 --> 00:31:57.039
Just be patient with yourself.

506
00:31:57.630 --> 00:32:01.000
Yeah, I just, like I said, I stopped beating myself up.

507
00:32:01.059 --> 00:32:03.059
I mean, I went to I don't know how many

508
00:32:03.240 --> 00:32:07.680
writing classes. And my job used to take me to

509
00:32:07.720 --> 00:32:09.880
different parts of the country.

510
00:32:10.079 --> 00:32:12.430
And so I'd be in California. I'd meet up with

511
00:32:12.450 --> 00:32:13.849
a writing group. I'd start there.

512
00:32:14.150 --> 00:32:16.690
And then I came to Washington, and I was writing there.

513
00:32:16.789 --> 00:32:18.549
And then I was in South Dakota, and I was

514
00:32:18.589 --> 00:32:19.109
writing there.

515
00:32:19.430 --> 00:32:23.930
And so it's just... But I'm determined I'm going to

516
00:32:23.990 --> 00:32:25.390
finish this thing. It's just.

517
00:32:26.589 --> 00:32:30.759
And I just have to tell the, the analytical me

518
00:32:31.140 --> 00:32:32.400
to be quiet for a while.

519
00:32:35.099 --> 00:32:38.440
You know, and pray about it too, but yeah, pray

520
00:32:38.460 --> 00:32:41.279
about it first and then just give yourself permission to

521
00:32:41.339 --> 00:32:44.750
have fun. Give yourself, you can always delete it. You

522
00:32:44.789 --> 00:32:48.490
can always erase it. You can always start a fresh page.

523
00:32:48.750 --> 00:32:53.710
So there's like nothing to be afraid of. And honestly,

524
00:32:53.769 --> 00:32:58.269
there's so many, um, things out there in entertainment where

525
00:32:58.309 --> 00:33:02.369
you can tell that a person was not at all analytical.

526
00:33:03.869 --> 00:33:07.549
Putting it nicely, you know, like to really think about

527
00:33:07.710 --> 00:33:12.430
that before you wrote that, before you shot that, I

528
00:33:12.890 --> 00:33:17.779
don't appreciate it. I get frustrated. And so I try

529
00:33:17.799 --> 00:33:22.980
to sit and think, are there any holes in the story?

530
00:33:23.119 --> 00:33:27.410
Does this make sense? to me at least, can.

531
00:33:27.069 --> 00:33:32.630
I explain why I made this character make this decision

532
00:33:33.089 --> 00:33:35.170
and so on and so forth. And sometimes I get

533
00:33:35.250 --> 00:33:39.529
frustrated when I'm watching TV and I see something and

534
00:33:39.589 --> 00:33:41.549
it feels like they just threw it together and they

535
00:33:41.569 --> 00:33:42.390
didn't think about it.

536
00:33:42.670 --> 00:33:44.690
So that might be your superpower.

537
00:33:44.759 --> 00:33:49.720
Your your analytical nature could be your superpower. You could

538
00:33:49.779 --> 00:33:54.440
be that person that when I read your book, I'm like, wow,

539
00:33:54.519 --> 00:33:58.660
she's very smart. I appreciate the thought that she put

540
00:33:58.700 --> 00:33:59.160
into this.

541
00:33:59.660 --> 00:34:02.799
So you can turn that around.

542
00:34:02.819 --> 00:34:08.760
Turn that around then. Overcoming insecurity.

543
00:34:08.840 --> 00:34:12.550
We live in a social media era where kids are

544
00:34:13.170 --> 00:34:17.789
under immense pressure to look a certain way. How can

545
00:34:17.849 --> 00:34:20.929
parents use your book to help their kids to navigate

546
00:34:20.989 --> 00:34:27.949
these pressures and help them accept the fact of just

547
00:34:27.989 --> 00:34:28.849
being themselves?

548
00:34:30.750 --> 00:34:35.090
Well, I think no matter what it is, whatever we

549
00:34:35.170 --> 00:34:40.539
allow our young people to take in in forms of

550
00:34:40.639 --> 00:34:45.739
entertainment or otherwise, I think that it's good to discuss

551
00:34:45.820 --> 00:34:48.489
with them what they're watching.

552
00:34:48.510 --> 00:34:49.750
Yeah.

553
00:34:50.659 --> 00:34:54.130
I remember having a professor at one of my colleges

554
00:34:54.170 --> 00:34:58.090
when I was younger, and she was a professor in

555
00:34:58.170 --> 00:35:01.170
a radio television film class that I was in. And

556
00:35:01.269 --> 00:35:05.610
she said everything that her children watch, she watches with them.

557
00:35:05.630 --> 00:35:11.170
And back when there was fewer ways to access. So

558
00:35:12.630 --> 00:35:14.860
I don't know how easy that is for a parent

559
00:35:14.880 --> 00:35:18.139
at the time, but she watched everything with them. And

560
00:35:18.179 --> 00:35:20.699
then they had a discussion about it. So when you

561
00:35:20.840 --> 00:35:27.800
ask specifically about social media, I would probably suggest asking them,

562
00:35:27.960 --> 00:35:28.320
what are.

563
00:35:28.239 --> 00:35:34.349
You seeing online? How is that making you feel? And

564
00:35:35.730 --> 00:35:39.449
give them room to tell you what's bothering them.

565
00:35:40.090 --> 00:35:43.989
Because in my case, with my big feet, I never

566
00:35:44.190 --> 00:35:45.570
really told anybody that.

567
00:35:47.530 --> 00:35:48.809
This was bothering me.

568
00:35:49.170 --> 00:35:52.309
And so maybe that's why I'm crying all the time now,

569
00:35:53.260 --> 00:35:57.440
because I'm looking back with a better understanding of what

570
00:35:57.519 --> 00:36:01.019
I was going through. And because I was sort of

571
00:36:01.239 --> 00:36:04.130
confident from the ankles up, as I like to say, um,

572
00:36:05.550 --> 00:36:10.590
you know, you couldn't tell that I was hurting, you know,

573
00:36:10.969 --> 00:36:14.369
you can, And so I think that even if a

574
00:36:14.389 --> 00:36:19.710
child does seem confident, we have to realize that if

575
00:36:19.769 --> 00:36:25.650
we're working people and we're not, if school and daycare

576
00:36:25.730 --> 00:36:29.400
and sports and other activities are with our children more

577
00:36:29.480 --> 00:36:33.679
than we are, then we have to sit down and

578
00:36:33.739 --> 00:36:37.840
start probing and digging and, you know, getting that.

579
00:36:37.800 --> 00:36:41.059
Quality time in and asking them, how are you, how

580
00:36:41.079 --> 00:36:43.519
are you feeling? Does that make you feel.

581
00:36:43.880 --> 00:36:47.730
And, and not really project things onto them, but really

582
00:36:47.789 --> 00:36:51.090
try to listen, you know, for what it is that

583
00:36:51.110 --> 00:36:52.349
they're actually saying.

584
00:36:52.110 --> 00:36:54.489
So you can help them work through it. Yeah.

585
00:36:55.389 --> 00:37:00.110
So what is the next chapter for the Fabnificent Universe?

586
00:37:01.690 --> 00:37:06.429
Well, I'm excited because I'm fine tuning part two right now.

587
00:37:06.449 --> 00:37:13.409
Um, and so, um, I am, um, working to be

588
00:37:13.510 --> 00:37:17.110
sure that people can see what's special about the other

589
00:37:17.179 --> 00:37:21.639
characters as well, because we didn't really talk.

590
00:37:21.360 --> 00:37:25.119
Much, um, about what the story is.

591
00:37:25.119 --> 00:37:30.690
Um, But the story is about a girl with big

592
00:37:30.769 --> 00:37:35.039
feet who wants to change her feet and she wants

593
00:37:35.079 --> 00:37:39.920
to buy new feet. But the store is all out

594
00:37:40.119 --> 00:37:45.449
of feet that day. So then right after that, it's

595
00:37:45.530 --> 00:37:50.679
revealed that her feet are her superpower. And then she

596
00:37:50.739 --> 00:37:54.320
meets these other kids with big eyes, big ears, big nose.

597
00:37:54.380 --> 00:37:56.619
And she helps them to see that their big differences

598
00:37:56.800 --> 00:38:00.300
are their superpowers. And they form a superhero team and

599
00:38:00.340 --> 00:38:04.619
take your powers to the world. So the part one

600
00:38:05.179 --> 00:38:10.599
mainly deals with freedom. and her being bullied and then

601
00:38:10.639 --> 00:38:16.280
her encouraging these other children part two also starts to

602
00:38:16.400 --> 00:38:20.239
touch on what's the superpower of the kid with the

603
00:38:20.300 --> 00:38:24.909
big nose the big ears big eyes and also how

604
00:38:24.969 --> 00:38:30.789
they are each other's missing puzzle piece because i feel

605
00:38:30.869 --> 00:38:36.329
that we all are a puzzle piece and if i'm

606
00:38:36.429 --> 00:38:38.929
confident in who i am just like you know i'm

607
00:38:38.989 --> 00:38:41.510
sitting here talking to you you're telling me you're analytical

608
00:38:42.130 --> 00:38:44.889
um but you have a skill set that i don't

609
00:38:44.949 --> 00:38:52.139
have so if i'm comfortable with who i am And

610
00:38:52.320 --> 00:38:56.150
I know what my strengths are, but I see your strengths.

611
00:38:56.630 --> 00:38:59.010
You don't see your strengths, but I'm telling you, no,

612
00:38:59.090 --> 00:39:00.389
that's not your weakness.

613
00:39:00.409 --> 00:39:03.989
That's your superpower. And not only is it your superpower,

614
00:39:04.309 --> 00:39:06.349
as soon as you become.

615
00:39:05.969 --> 00:39:09.750
Empowered and see that in yourself, you can show up

616
00:39:09.789 --> 00:39:15.139
for me in a way that I need you to,

617
00:39:15.199 --> 00:39:17.400
because your strength is not my strength.

618
00:39:18.010 --> 00:39:19.010
You know what I mean?

619
00:39:19.070 --> 00:39:23.780
And so we're all interconnected. And so that's part of

620
00:39:24.179 --> 00:39:28.239
what's happening in part two. But um i'm seeing big

621
00:39:28.340 --> 00:39:31.289
things because this is not just a children's book it's

622
00:39:31.369 --> 00:39:36.840
a brand um So I have a series, part two,

623
00:39:36.889 --> 00:39:43.780
part three, at least six parts, animations, movies, you know, cartoons.

624
00:39:45.199 --> 00:39:46.820
I'm looking to employ people.

625
00:39:46.949 --> 00:39:50.690
I'm looking to be the reason families are eating dinner.

626
00:39:52.289 --> 00:39:55.690
Oh, yeah, I can see that. That would just be incredible.

627
00:39:56.619 --> 00:39:59.900
I mean, because like I said, if children are sitting

628
00:39:59.920 --> 00:40:04.300
there watching this story, you know, instead of watching some

629
00:40:04.320 --> 00:40:07.579
of the other things that they're seeing, this here is

630
00:40:07.679 --> 00:40:11.760
actually food for their spirit, food for their mind, food

631
00:40:11.820 --> 00:40:15.250
for their heart and emotion. Some of this other stuff,

632
00:40:15.349 --> 00:40:20.010
watching children beat each other up, that's just violence.

633
00:40:20.250 --> 00:40:22.949
And look at what you're getting into your spirit, right?

634
00:40:23.730 --> 00:40:28.969
And so this is, yes, I like that. You see

635
00:40:28.989 --> 00:40:32.829
the whole dream going on and on and on. And

636
00:40:32.869 --> 00:40:37.230
that is just incredible. That's what happens when you find

637
00:40:37.250 --> 00:40:47.920
your purpose and fit your shoes. Indeed.

638
00:40:47.940 --> 00:40:50.380
Oh, wow. I was just so excited for you.

639
00:40:51.380 --> 00:40:55.190
Let our listeners know where they can get your book

640
00:40:55.849 --> 00:40:58.050
and how they can follow your journey.

641
00:40:58.110 --> 00:41:00.030
Where can they follow you on social media?

642
00:41:01.309 --> 00:41:04.489
Oh, thanks for asking. So you can go. Let me

643
00:41:04.570 --> 00:41:08.670
actually show you the book. This is the book right here.

644
00:41:08.730 --> 00:41:13.469
This is the hardcover. And so you can go to

645
00:41:13.610 --> 00:41:20.380
Frida's fat, magnificent feet.com. Let's take the, if you Google this,

646
00:41:21.039 --> 00:41:22.550
the website is going to come up.

647
00:41:22.889 --> 00:41:24.510
That's the best way to support me.

648
00:41:24.510 --> 00:41:30.300
Um, And just, you know, it's a hardcover keepsake. So

649
00:41:30.380 --> 00:41:32.539
it's got really wonderful illustrations.

650
00:41:32.599 --> 00:41:37.559
It's really beautiful. Yes, it is. Thank you. You can

651
00:41:37.579 --> 00:41:40.079
go to Frida'sFantasticFeet.com.

652
00:41:40.719 --> 00:41:43.679
And if you want to reach me about, I.

653
00:41:44.980 --> 00:41:49.139
Speak, like I have speaking engagements, Boys and Girls Club, YMCA.

654
00:41:50.380 --> 00:41:54.969
Stories at schools you can contact me through my website

655
00:41:55.010 --> 00:41:58.289
my email address is on there um and then also

656
00:41:58.369 --> 00:42:06.530
my uh instagram is freedom freedom 2025 and then my

657
00:42:06.610 --> 00:42:11.750
tiktok is at kyoko talks and kyoko is k-i-y-o-k-o um yeah.

658
00:42:14.960 --> 00:42:18.860
And so those are two ways.

659
00:42:18.699 --> 00:42:22.630
That you can reach me and support me because um

660
00:42:24.050 --> 00:42:27.190
i have uh you can get them on amazon and

661
00:42:27.630 --> 00:42:31.639
all the other places but um to best support me

662
00:42:31.659 --> 00:42:36.139
go to my website.

663
00:42:35.579 --> 00:42:40.199
Please yes absolutely absolutely well i think they're really going

664
00:42:40.219 --> 00:42:44.489
to be Not only interested in getting this first book,

665
00:42:44.590 --> 00:42:49.250
but actually following the whole journey of Frida and her

666
00:42:49.409 --> 00:42:51.789
friends and her group and.

667
00:42:51.730 --> 00:42:54.670
Their community that they're building. Oh, my goodness. This is

668
00:42:54.730 --> 00:42:56.880
just going to be an incredible journey.

669
00:42:57.599 --> 00:43:00.199
Journey and to watch it is going to be well

670
00:43:00.320 --> 00:43:04.519
i'm just feeling so blessed to to be here while

671
00:43:04.559 --> 00:43:08.260
you're beginning here and going forward this is so exciting

672
00:43:08.519 --> 00:43:09.849
to to see this.

673
00:43:10.280 --> 00:43:13.469
Thank you and also there's something that has been on

674
00:43:13.489 --> 00:43:15.670
my heart lately that i i wanted to put out

675
00:43:15.750 --> 00:43:20.389
there um you know i would also tell children you

676
00:43:20.550 --> 00:43:22.869
know if you if you knew for a fact that

677
00:43:22.909 --> 00:43:27.000
you were here for a reason you know, if let's

678
00:43:27.019 --> 00:43:30.300
just pretend, um, for those of us who.

679
00:43:30.199 --> 00:43:34.829
Believe in God, that who, before you were born.

680
00:43:34.849 --> 00:43:39.150
You had a conversation with God and said, Hey, I'm

681
00:43:39.250 --> 00:43:40.449
sending you down to earth.

682
00:43:41.489 --> 00:43:46.159
And, um, this is your body that I'm giving you.

683
00:43:46.179 --> 00:43:47.219
This is what you're going to write.

684
00:43:48.099 --> 00:43:51.079
And this is what you are supposed to do while

685
00:43:51.099 --> 00:43:51.679
you're there.

686
00:43:52.300 --> 00:43:55.820
If you do this, that you were here on a mission.

687
00:43:55.840 --> 00:44:00.789
You would not be a screwdriver trying to be a hammer.

688
00:44:01.389 --> 00:44:01.610
Right.

689
00:44:02.860 --> 00:44:07.389
You and me is hitting the nail. If you're a screwdriver,

690
00:44:07.409 --> 00:44:09.849
you'd be trying to screw in screws, you know? And

691
00:44:09.869 --> 00:44:12.489
so I think that's where we get confused.

692
00:44:12.510 --> 00:44:15.630
And so, and then you get to be an adult

693
00:44:16.030 --> 00:44:18.420
and you're like, what's my purpose? And you're having a

694
00:44:18.460 --> 00:44:22.199
midlife crisis and you're so sad. And I feel like

695
00:44:22.559 --> 00:44:26.079
if we started from the beginning, like you're here for

696
00:44:26.099 --> 00:44:30.719
a reason, you have a specific purpose and let's start

697
00:44:30.780 --> 00:44:34.250
exploring what is fills your heart up? What makes your

698
00:44:34.309 --> 00:44:37.769
heart swell? What makes you feel good? What makes you

699
00:44:37.789 --> 00:44:43.969
feel purposeful? And then every day you're doing things, whether

700
00:44:44.010 --> 00:44:47.550
you're feeding the homeless or visiting sick people in the

701
00:44:47.639 --> 00:44:53.500
hospital or telling stories to entertain people or encouraging people

702
00:44:53.539 --> 00:44:54.619
or whatever it is.

703
00:44:54.639 --> 00:44:56.320
If you start out.

704
00:44:56.340 --> 00:45:00.280
Thinking that way, your self-esteem would be higher because you're

705
00:45:00.360 --> 00:45:01.380
feeling like you're.

706
00:45:01.219 --> 00:45:03.780
Making an impact. From the moment.

707
00:45:03.599 --> 00:45:07.119
That you are a small child and then when people

708
00:45:07.179 --> 00:45:10.070
come in to try to chip away or throw darts

709
00:45:10.170 --> 00:45:12.989
at that, you're swatting that stuff away.

710
00:45:13.070 --> 00:45:16.400
You have a shield around you. And it's something that

711
00:45:16.420 --> 00:45:18.199
you would protect sooner.

712
00:45:18.219 --> 00:45:22.280
And I think self-esteem would be more consistent throughout the

713
00:45:22.300 --> 00:45:23.599
course of a long time.

714
00:45:23.980 --> 00:45:25.730
Absolutely. Absolutely.

715
00:45:26.329 --> 00:45:29.389
You have taken the words out of my mouth. In fact,

716
00:45:29.590 --> 00:45:33.949
I saw a video about someone actually saying this very

717
00:45:34.050 --> 00:45:38.769
thing about you protecting there was an agreement and you

718
00:45:38.829 --> 00:45:43.099
came to earth to do a specific thing. And when

719
00:45:43.159 --> 00:45:46.280
you find out, and this is why I tell people,

720
00:45:46.340 --> 00:45:50.519
find out what your purpose is. You wouldn't be so anxious.

721
00:45:50.539 --> 00:45:53.219
You wouldn't be so angry. You wouldn't be so depressed

722
00:45:53.550 --> 00:45:57.210
because you would be busy doing something that you know

723
00:45:57.670 --> 00:46:00.610
nobody else can do but you. So you're going to

724
00:46:00.670 --> 00:46:03.789
take on that responsibility. You're going to be you. You're

725
00:46:03.829 --> 00:46:06.690
going to do you. You're going to achieve through you,

726
00:46:07.230 --> 00:46:11.389
not trying to be someone else. You know, I'm thankful

727
00:46:11.429 --> 00:46:15.210
for all of the other people that have succeeded. But,

728
00:46:15.630 --> 00:46:18.769
you know, there's a new generation over and over. As

729
00:46:18.789 --> 00:46:20.530
long as we keep having children, there are going to

730
00:46:20.570 --> 00:46:24.059
be new generations. You need to find your purpose. That

731
00:46:24.860 --> 00:46:27.900
was wonderful. I'm so glad you said that.

732
00:46:28.900 --> 00:46:29.380
Thank you.

733
00:46:29.440 --> 00:46:34.449
I heard someone say, be yourself because everyone else is

734
00:46:34.530 --> 00:46:35.550
already taken.

735
00:46:35.570 --> 00:46:35.639
Yes.

736
00:46:37.079 --> 00:46:37.480
Yeah.

737
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So and I'm just having fun with the whole thing,

738
00:46:41.889 --> 00:46:46.670
even the experience itself. The people that support me, the

739
00:46:47.809 --> 00:46:51.929
everybody from the mail lady. I get a lot of

740
00:46:51.989 --> 00:46:54.340
favor at the post office. I've sold books at the

741
00:46:54.449 --> 00:46:59.480
post office. I've sold books in front of Trader Joe's,

742
00:47:00.099 --> 00:47:03.980
at the cash register. And people seem to really trust me.

743
00:47:04.059 --> 00:47:07.199
I've had people literally be working, have a line of

744
00:47:07.280 --> 00:47:10.739
people and hand me their phone and let me cash.

745
00:47:10.460 --> 00:47:16.539
Out myself or let me sell myself. And even the

746
00:47:16.659 --> 00:47:19.800
experience itself is a movie to me.

747
00:47:20.159 --> 00:47:23.300
So I look forward to the book getting to a

748
00:47:23.579 --> 00:47:25.219
certain level of success.

749
00:47:25.739 --> 00:47:27.460
So that I would have.

750
00:47:27.320 --> 00:47:31.150
A platform to then turn the entire story of the

751
00:47:31.210 --> 00:47:34.869
journey that I've had with the book into a movie.

752
00:47:35.469 --> 00:47:39.349
Oh, I can just see, you know, I can see

753
00:47:39.369 --> 00:47:43.309
this little girl. I can see her. And I'm telling you,

754
00:47:43.550 --> 00:47:45.679
it's just incredible. It really is.

755
00:47:47.219 --> 00:47:51.510
Made my heart beat faster when I saw this. And

756
00:47:51.710 --> 00:47:54.670
I just couldn't wait to get this out and share

757
00:47:54.710 --> 00:47:58.190
it with others that this is available because.

758
00:47:57.929 --> 00:48:01.539
We have to start helping our children. We have to start.

759
00:48:02.559 --> 00:48:06.590
Like I said, giving this information to our children. You

760
00:48:06.659 --> 00:48:10.570
are unique. You were born for a purpose. And be

761
00:48:10.690 --> 00:48:15.289
watching and looking at what that child.

762
00:48:14.929 --> 00:48:19.380
Is really interested in. What is their unique character? What

763
00:48:19.440 --> 00:48:20.619
is their unique thing?

764
00:48:21.340 --> 00:48:25.519
And it's not something that they should feel down about,

765
00:48:25.559 --> 00:48:28.860
but they should embrace that. And see that that's their

766
00:48:28.909 --> 00:48:32.409
superpower and be able to go forward so that when,

767
00:48:32.690 --> 00:48:37.630
like you say, the negative thoughts come, the negative words come,

768
00:48:38.030 --> 00:48:42.389
you can throw that stuff off and continue.

769
00:48:41.869 --> 00:48:44.139
To be you. Because nobody can be you but you.

770
00:48:45.019 --> 00:48:46.760
I can't come through your skin and be you.

771
00:48:47.639 --> 00:48:49.860
I can just be there to help encourage you and

772
00:48:49.880 --> 00:48:52.590
do whatever I can to get that word out so

773
00:48:52.619 --> 00:48:55.389
that you can fulfill that dream because I know it's

774
00:48:55.409 --> 00:49:00.409
going to help change so many children's lives because it's

775
00:49:00.449 --> 00:49:05.130
starting there. And it bothers me when there's so many

776
00:49:05.190 --> 00:49:08.750
children out there lost and so many horrible things have

777
00:49:08.769 --> 00:49:09.929
been happening to children.

778
00:49:09.969 --> 00:49:12.230
They're being snatched and just lost.

779
00:49:12.969 --> 00:49:18.219
That society has become so horrible that we permit this

780
00:49:18.300 --> 00:49:19.110
kind of behavior.

781
00:49:20.420 --> 00:49:22.159
In our nations. And so.

782
00:49:23.860 --> 00:49:29.869
I'm excited that you care and you're feeling those shoes

783
00:49:30.110 --> 00:49:33.630
thank you and.

784
00:49:33.710 --> 00:49:36.570
Um you know i just want to also put out

785
00:49:36.630 --> 00:49:40.860
there that you know sometimes i get bulk orders and

786
00:49:40.909 --> 00:49:45.059
things like that and um sometimes people like even recently

787
00:49:45.300 --> 00:49:48.300
um there's a organization that reached out to me and

788
00:49:48.380 --> 00:49:51.099
i was um they they want a book order but

789
00:49:51.159 --> 00:49:54.230
then it turns out There's only so low I can

790
00:49:54.269 --> 00:50:00.840
go in terms of discount. So there's options, you know,

791
00:50:00.880 --> 00:50:07.360
sometimes for tax deductible donations. So you don't have children

792
00:50:07.380 --> 00:50:11.699
and you would like to get this message and help

793
00:50:11.760 --> 00:50:17.559
spread this message of purpose. and confidence to children, you

794
00:50:17.599 --> 00:50:19.940
could go on my website.

795
00:50:19.699 --> 00:50:22.789
And just donate books to children.

796
00:50:22.849 --> 00:50:27.429
I even have an option for tax-deductible donations because I

797
00:50:27.449 --> 00:50:32.019
have a fiscal sponsor called Fractured Atlas.

798
00:50:32.039 --> 00:50:34.579
And you can do that if you want. And then

799
00:50:34.599 --> 00:50:34.800
I can.

800
00:50:36.059 --> 00:50:38.719
um even make a deal with you i'll send you

801
00:50:38.900 --> 00:50:43.190
video footage of the children receiving the books and the

802
00:50:43.230 --> 00:50:46.050
discussions that we've had and you know if you want

803
00:50:46.070 --> 00:50:48.110
to be on the donor wall and all that kind

804
00:50:48.150 --> 00:50:51.280
of stuff i'm on a mission this is definitely my

805
00:50:51.320 --> 00:50:57.880
purpose and i'm definitely enjoying imparting this positive message to children.

806
00:50:58.239 --> 00:51:00.960
Well i tell you i'm really glad that you were

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