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Hello, and thank you for tuning in to A Sharp
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Outlook on K4HD Radio and Talk Or TV. I am
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Angela Sharp, your host. Our armchair discussions with industry experts
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will give you the steps, tools, and information to be
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successful in business and to prepare you to be your
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best self. Hello, and first off, I want to start
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by saying that I want to honor all of Indigenous people.
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Today is Indigenous Peoples Day, and I want to honor
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those that have come before us and thank them for
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their resilience, their fortitude, and their strength so that we
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can actually be here today.
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Thank you very much. And today, we're going to be
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talking about stepping into love. Embracing your unique self. There's
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so many people who may have different characteristics than others.
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And sometimes they're getting bullied. Sometimes they're getting laughed at
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and different things. But we have a guest today that's
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going to help us understand about that situation. So today
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on A Sharp Outlook, we're joined by the inspiring Kyoko Hairston.
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author of Frida's Fabnificent Feet. In this episode, we're going
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to dive deep into the power of storytelling and as
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a tool for childhood development and self-esteem. Kyoko shares the
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personal inspiration behind Frida, her book that she has written,
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the challenges of writing stories and that matter and why
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it is more important than ever to teach our children
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to celebrate the things that make them different. We should
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be seeking to be different from others because we are
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all destined with a specific purpose.
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So we are going to be different. We're going to
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have different characteristics.
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And so we're going to be talking about that, whether
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you are a parent, an educator, a or an inspiring author,
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join us for a heart-centered conversation about finding your footing
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in a world.
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That often asks you to just fit in.
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This book is positioned as a positive educational resource for
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parents and educators looking to foster healthy self-esteem in children.
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By highlighting physical uniqueness, Hairston provides a narrative that aims
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to counter feelings of inadequacy or just fitting in. The
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new children's book takes us on a journey of self-love,
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embracing our differences and loving the features that makes us
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uniquely special. We are so excited about having this conversation
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because as I, as a grandmother, well, it would really
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truly be told, I am a great grandmother. And I'm
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watching how the people in that generation are developing. And
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I'm here every Monday because I'm concerned about the development
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of our youth and of our children and them being
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able to aspire to become what is necessary to take
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this nation forward into the next generation, into the future,
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into the positivity that can happen. And so it's so
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important to have someone here who has written a book
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that helps our children to establish self-esteem. So I'd like
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to invite Kyoko to join us now so that we
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can have this discussion about You know, all the things
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that children need to do. Her literary work serves as
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a resource for teaching children about self-love. And that seems
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to be a major problem in our world today.
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People not having self-love. Hello. Good morning. It is great
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to see you. Good morning.
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How are you?
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Oh, doing great.
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Just excited to talk about this fabulous book that you
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have written. That's giving children a different attitude towards themselves.
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And they really need to have that. That self-love. So
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when those school bullies, and we all had to go
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through them, when they come around, they don't get offended
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or they don't get afraid or they don't get embarrassed,
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but they like push their chest out like, hey, you
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just wish you were me. That's what you need to
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tell them. You just wish you were me. Don't be jealous.
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Get your own unique something, something. But this is who
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I am. And I'm happy and proud about who I am. So, Frida,
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tell us about you and your journey and what brought
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you to write this just incredible story.
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Wait, did you just call me Frida?
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I'm sorry. I got Frida on the mind.
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I've been looking at all the videos about her and.
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She's just incredible. So it is kind of like you.
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It is me.
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I am Frida, but I just want to make sure
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I heard you right.
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That's all.
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You're not wrong underneath it all. The story is about me.
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So, yeah. Yes.
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Yes.
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But okay.
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So Kyoko is my government name. That's what's on my
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birth certificate, but yeah, I am. I'm sorry. So could
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you ask your question again? Cause I just want to
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make sure that I didn't lose track.
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Well, I was just, you know, I'd like to understand
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your background and what brought you to writing this book
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about self love, about embracing that.
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You are different. Because most people run from it.
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Most people hide from it because, you know, like I said,
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we have the bullies that make them feel uncomfortable.
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So what brought you to writing this story?
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Oh, wow.
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There's so much that led up to this. So I
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do have really big feet. I wear a size 11
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and a half. And, um, but there's, uh, so much
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more just trying to figure out where to start.
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Exactly. Um, how much do you want to hear?
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Well, there must've been something that actually, you know, you've got,
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you went through an experience growing up and things like that.
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You know, when I was very small, even at three
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years old, um, my feet were big for my age.
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Um, And so the seed started.
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Getting planted when I was really, really young.
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But, you know, they were just seeds initially.
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So I was still operating in a lot of confidence for.
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A long time. Yeah. Because I was an adorable little girl,
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if I do say so myself.
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There's a picture of me actually in the back of
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my book. And when the person was snapping the picture,
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he said, man, she's going to be tall. And I
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am tall and my feet clearly were an indication that
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that was going to happen.
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Now, that's not what happens to everybody, obviously.
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As I got older, you know, it was more adults
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roasting me.
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You know, in the front yard, in the driveway. Oh,
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she got some boats.
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Oh, she got some skis. Oh, I bet she can swim.
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You know, all that kind of stuff. And then other
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seats were whenever I went to get new shoes. Um,
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all the ugly shoes were in my size. So I
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would have to choose from orthopedic looking nursing shoes, you know,
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those real old school, you know, and then, um, My
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mom would give me a cute pair of shoes and
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I would just kind of stuff my foot in there
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and I wouldn't have any room to wiggle my toes around.
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And she would say, how does that feel? And then
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I would just kind of say, oh, it feels fine.
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And then when we go to an event or something,
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I'd be in a lot of pain. So from there,
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it actually made my feet ugly. I had corns and
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calluses and stuff. So they weren't just big. They were
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big and injured from wearing tight shoes, which just added
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another layer of insecurity.
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So that's kind of where it started. Yeah.
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Well, you know, and just think of so many children
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that go through all of these different things and those
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little seeds that they plant. they can end up growing
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and becoming something negative that this child is always fighting
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because they're feeling like they don't measure up.
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So even in our.
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Jesting or our joking or whatever, especially a child, we
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have to be conscious of what are we really putting
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in that child's spirit and that they're going to grow
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up with and they're going to you know be fighting
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for a long period of their time because You know,
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they don't know how to just embrace it and say, yeah, yeah,
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and I'm going to.
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So, you know, hey. But they don't know how to
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just turn it on and turn it off.
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And so, yeah, that probably really had an effect on you,
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had an effect along the way. Well, your book itself
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is talking about self-love and the importance of of embracing
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your individual differences. And it covers themes of inclusivity and
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self-acceptance and positioning. You know, the book is a tool
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for personal growth for children. So how, explain to the
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audience what your purpose and goal is in this book
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that you're writing.
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Oh, boy.
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Well, I feel like the world would be a better
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place if we all loved ourselves. And I know that
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can sound corny to some people, but how you feel
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about yourself colors how you treat other people many times.
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So if I love myself and I'm confident and I
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believe in myself, I'm walking in.
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A certain kind of power, right?
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That gives me the freedom to see the good in
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other people and to encourage and empower other people. So
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I believe it all starts with me and it all starts.
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With our children.
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You know, what we're messages we're allowing our children to absorb.
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And what we're intentionally pouring into them.
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And I think, and a lot of it is because
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they don't really have classes out there to teach you
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how to be parents. So everybody does what the previous
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generation was doing. And so sometimes things are said or done,
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probably not meaning harm, but it was done to them.
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So they just automatically do it to their children and
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don't understand the potential harm. And especially when, you know,
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if one of their peers, you know, hears about it, oh,
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my goodness, then it really becomes, you know, a target
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and can really, you know, be harmful for the children.
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Absolutely.
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So what was the aha moment that said you realize
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that Frida needed to be.
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To exist in.
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A world needed to be created, needed to be put
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out there. She needed to be known. Her voice needed
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to be heard. When was that aha moment?
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Um, you know, when I think about it, I feel
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like I had confidence in the story from the beginning. Um,
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I honestly, I feel like God was telling me that
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I was going to write children's books.
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Um, when I was in my twenties. And so that
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was just last year. No, just kidding. That was a
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really long time.
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And so I already, you know, when you feel that
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God has told you something, you're already coming to a
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certain level of confidence. So when the story started to,
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when I started to brainstorm the story, I already felt
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like it was a special story because it was touching
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my heart while I was working on it. And there
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were moments where I felt like I wanted to cry.
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And that's always a tell for me. If I'm feeling it.
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Other people are going to feel it.
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But then there's one really special moment.
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I have two elderly friends.
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That I have been looking after for a long time.
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And I took them on a trip to Myrtle Beach.
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And they were some of the first people that I
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read that first draft to.
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And, oh gosh. I'm not supposed to be crying this soon.
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But we were just like riding down the freeway. And
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one of them kept repeating, the favorite line from the
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book and the line is no one can fill my
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shoes yes and he just kept saying it over and
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over again and we're just riding.
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Down the freeway and it was like.
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The ideal day the sun is shining and the trees
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are swaying in the breeze and Every time he said it,
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I would just tear up because the words were no
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longer just on the page.
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He was back there really.
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Taking it in and living in it and saying it
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about himself.
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And he said it so many times.
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And I shed enough tears that I had to ask
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him to stop. I was like, I'm not going to cry.
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I'm not going to cry no more.
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But anyways, so I was like, stop it, please stop.
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But I really, I just really couldn't stand to shed
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another tear. And I just, and so that was really
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the moment where I could hear not just him saying,
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no one can fill my shoes.