Sept. 8, 2025

Life Reimagined

Life Reimagined
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Season 1

Are you feeling stuck? Do you dream of a life with more meaning, passion, and joy? Then you've come to the right place! Do you find yourself searching for your purpose, feeling unfulfilled or lost in your current life path? We are going to discuss this and more. Address those feelings about seeking more meaning and purpose, looking for inspiration and motivation to live your best life, committed to personal growth and self-improvement.
Life Reimagined is for anyone who is Seeking Purpose.

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Hello, and thank you for tuning in to a Sharp

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Outlook on pay for HD Radio and Talk or TV.

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I am Angela Sharp, Your host our arm chair discussions

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with industry experts will give you the steps, tools and

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information to be successful in business and to prepare you

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to be your best self. Hello, I'm Angela Sharp, and

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welcome to a Sharp Outlook. Today, going to talk about

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your life being reimagined. Imagine that. Are you feeling stuck?

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Do you dream of a life with more meaning, passion, joy?

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Then you've come to the right place this morning. Do

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you find yourself searching for purpose, feeling unfulfilled or lost

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in your current life path? We are going to discuss

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this and more. We are going to discuss those feelings

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about seeking more meaning and purpose, looking for inspiration and motivation,

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to live your best life, committed to personal growth and

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self improvement. Your life can be really imagined. And what

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would you be? What kind of person am I talking

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to you? I'm talking to someone overcoming fear and self doubt,

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having difficulty building stronger relationships, looking to create a fulfilling career,

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Needing to improve your health and well being. I know

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about that, a desire to know joy and happiness. Are

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you ready to take control of your life and start

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cultivating a growth mindset, achieving financial freedom and living with intention? Well? Todave.

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I have a guest, and we're going to talk about

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being able to reimagine your life, looking at where you

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are and making decisions to change that particular trajectory. My

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guest is Eric Ayers Airs. Sorry is an innovative catalyst

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and transformation guide building cultures where innovation is human centered,

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scalable and sustainable. Guides organizations to align purpose, people and process,

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creating to ripple effect of positive change. Eric is the

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founder and CEO of my company is EMC squad Aired LLC,

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and I offer life by this design with two paths,

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one through my aligned by Design and group organizational through

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culture by design. Think coaching versus consulting. He has been

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an RN for over two decades. He is a creator

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of SIM Prescription Trademark, which is the ultimate Culture by

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Design modality use for consulting organizations specifically healthcare and shifting

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culture through empowering and experimental education. He's also an author

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of a book called SIM Prescription Trademark Transforming Healthcare, Leadership

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and Culture by Design, which is the book that houses

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the modality and framework to create the culture organization seek.

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He offers life by Design, which is two paths, one

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through the aligned by Design and group organizational through culture

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by Design and think coaching versus consulting. I'd like to

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invite Eric to join me so we can begin our

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conversation how to reimagine your life and taking control and

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how about let's just not be stuck any longer. Hi, Eric,

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Welcome to a Sharp Outlook.

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Hello Angela, Thank you so much for having me. This

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is super exciting. Yeah.

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Here, I'm really happy to have this conversation because I

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know I have been. I had been years ago struggling

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with health issues and I you know, went through the

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whole take all these pills kind of medication to make

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things better, and it got I got worse instead of better.

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I used to have all sort of colitis, and anyone

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knows anything about it. It's a devastating, embarrassing almost you know,

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you know, you're almost stuck in the house. You can't

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go anywhere. Just because of the controls that normal people have.

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You no longer have them any longer.

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Absolutely.

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He finally came up to the point where they tried

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to give me chemo and shut down my immune system.

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That's when I said, you know what, I'm not taking

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any more medicine. And he said, oh, you don't have

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a choice. I'm like, oh, I do have it. Yes,

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not to take this path and allow medications to kill me. No,

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thank you. And after two sessions of it, and I

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was so sick, I was like, I can't do this,

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You can't do this. And I went to a medicine

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woman from Warm Springs had gone to her teaching on

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herbs and medicines, and she told me to take Devil's claw,

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and in fact, they make a lot of anti inflammatories

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from devil's claw. Hey, how about just giving us the tea.

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I'm sorry I had to do that. I drank the

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tea and when two weeks after eighteen years of suffering,

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it was gone. I've never had another episode, and my

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immune system is strong. It keeps me from getting diseases.

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But I had to make a choice for my life

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that I wasn't going to go down somebody else's path

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as to what. So I'm really excited to talk about it.

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Time to modernize how we treat ourselves.

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Absolutely, tell us.

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More about your program.

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Yes, So to start off, I woant to recognize the

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power that we have in remembering that, remembering that understanding

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of so in your story, there was a point of

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identifying I'm not going to go further in this treatment

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because I have this remembering, this understanding of something higher, right,

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something innate within us. And I refer to that as

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our five year old self. Because our five year olds

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very rarely needed permission to reimagine anything. They continuously reimagine.

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They were not confound to the constructs of limitations. They

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lived in a world of possibility, and ultimately, at the

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core of everything, it's it's the five year old plus

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the idea of ou boontu of I am because we

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are we are human. So healthcare is a human service industry,

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and I'm proposing that the human element is what's missing

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in healthcare. So CMRX is our prescription for compassion, connection,

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and competency, and I personally believe that if we have

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those three, then we are able to create a culture

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beyond beyond simply treating a illness, and now we're able

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to care for the humans that are entering our space.

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So that's that's the that's the entry to some RX

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in my world.

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Well that I mean, I can definitely say that I

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don't feel the humanness when I'm going in. It's like

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they go look at a computer and I do software

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for my day job. I also am an accountant. I

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understand analytics, I understand you know, trends and all of

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those different things. I don't want you to treat me

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like I'm a trend. I want you to treat me

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like I'm a human and listen to what I'm saying

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and then let's let's resolve it based on what I

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have told you, not what you go in. Because there

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may be some some symptoms I have that's not on

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your chart. So I'm going to get bad care. I'm

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not going to get I mean, I mean, we love doctors,

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we believing I'm not trying to harm anyone, because I

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know you're restricted also to what the little plan is

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that they set out for you. And that's how most

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those types of jobs, even in finance, even in tech,

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you know, you usually have these little restrictions and you

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stay within these guidelines and it will work. But it's

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only design based on what was happening at the time

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it was built, which it was built too long ago, Eric,

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it was refreshing this thing and start doing something else.

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Absolutely absolutely, And it's built on systems. And the disconnect

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in my personal experience is the recognition of we have

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these thousand employees thousand plus employees in a hospital, for example,

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and the all doing their job because they're following the

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system that is built within there. But where is the passion,

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where is the potential? Where is the upgrade? Right? If

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you know AI is entering the world, we have to

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recognize AI. If we don't, then we're going to be

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the one sitting at home with the Encyclopedia Britannica and

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not using the Internet like this is coming. So how

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do we use it? How do we prepare ourselves and

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how do we make it better? And I think we

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do that together. And so I feel as though sometimes

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the system blinds us to our potential, and I think

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that's another aspect of the human element being pulled out

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of that because it's methodical, it's habitual, and it's a

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factory style mode of work. So how do we how

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do we create human centric innovation? And that's the that's

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the missing piece because it brings balance and it brings

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us back to alignment. And I think that starts with

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self and our self journey then can create a collaboration

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of others.

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Well, what does life reimagine mean to you? And how

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does your work help people achieve this?

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Absolutely, so when I think of reimagining life, I don't

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think about adding more grind. You know, we live in

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a world of hustle and bustle, and it's like, oh,

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just put your head down and grind. To me, that's

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that's the opposite. So I think of you know, how

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my five year old would do it? They would he

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would approach it with more curiosity, more play, and more connection.

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So and I think that's where transformation begins. So life

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reimagine is taking the the words and the idea of

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Neville Goddard of living from the end, figuring out what

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do I want what aligns with who I am, and

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I'm going to picture that. I want to picture it

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so well, then I'm going to have an emotional feeling

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towards that. And then let's work backwards. So what is

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my plan to get there? What brings me joy? What

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am I allowed to play? Which is curiosity? And to me,

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play is curiosity and enjoy put together. And these micro

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steps create this macro shift. And when we get there,

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when I get there, I feel as though there's been

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a huge transition, but I've only taken these micro steps

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that have shifted my trajectory. So in a nutshell, that's

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what reimagining life to me is.

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You know, I as you were talking about being that

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five year old and imagining things. Now, I'm let's just say,

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I've lived quite a long time, and uh, we didn't

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have like you know, they did have tricycles and bicycles.

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But my neighbor friend we decided because we used to

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play together fred I still remember his name, fred Rice,

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and we decided we wanted to have a go cart.

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Now we didn't have any open up a box and

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put stuff together. We found some old wood that was

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laying around because people were you know, building their house,

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so we stolled their wood. I'm sorry, I'm slorry. We

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hit the saw. We were out there cutting it up

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to make the sideboards and made pedals and then we

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got some rope that ended up, you know, helping to

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propel it. And we was just so when we moved

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the pedals that it moved the wheels. And oh, I

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mean we just we didn't know what we were doing,

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but we imagine what we wanted to get to, and

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we created a go cart and of course we had

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to use our little foot power, but you know, we

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still were able to steer and all this other stuff.

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We built the coolest little gold cart. And I mean,

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I mean we just had we were smiling, we had

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the grands, we had laughter, We just had a good time.

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But we actually engineered something and we had no background.

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We were like maybe five six years old, you know,

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out there and gosh, that was so much fun just

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imagining building something that was mobile. And I mean we

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would race it down the alley over to the fairgrounds,

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which wasn't too far from us. We just had a ball.

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So I mean just remembering that.

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Yeah, and I could feel that energy as you share

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that story. So thank you for that. And imagine if

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we do this in our everyday job. Imagine the joy

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and the amazing innovations that we would create on a

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daily basis. And it's like every day is how do

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we make this better? Not that it's not working, but

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we're evolving because we're spiritual beings who are here to

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be as large and as expansive as we possibly can.

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So if we if we are, then how do we

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expand that into our work? And you know, I could

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see the right brothers in your story. These these you know,

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two bicycle mechanics who are like, oh I saw a

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bird fly? What if we build something like that? I don't,

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we don't know what we're doing, but we're going to

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try and fail so many times that we're going to

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figure out how to defy gravity. And so these are

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innately in all of us. I think it's giving us,

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are giving ourselves permission to go there again, because I

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think the world we've allowed the world to take our

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permission slip away, and so now this is giving ourselves

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a permission slip to create and to be curious.

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I think about that, that I know all of us

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have some kind of creative spirit or something because it comes,

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you know, from the divine yes and whatever challenges that

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we've gone through though that kind of try to dampen

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that or you know, restrict that or whatever we have to, you.

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Know, kind of shake that off. That's someone else's problem

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over there. Let's shake that off. And wow, if we

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just let ourselves just for a moment, let our minds

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like Rome, like like the five year old who had

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no restrictions on what he thought he could do. He

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didn't have any boundaries, he didn't have any ideas that

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I can't do it. He was able to do the impossible.

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And it's time for new revolution in the nation and

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in the world. Like I said, AI is a new

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revelation of what started when I began working was the PC.

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I saw the first PC, and we used to have

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old punch cards to try to get financial information out

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of a system.

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And I had to.

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I was forced to learn how to write software code

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because it was the only way I could perform my

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job as an accountant, because it was the only way

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I could get reporting. So I learned software writing because

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the technology was changing the world was changing, and I

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had to keep up with it, but you know, I

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was It was cool for me because I was like,

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let me see how this happens. And so yeah, that's

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kind of like kind of like what you know, what

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you have to do just imagine what you could be

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and forget about where you've been and all the hurts

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and all the pains and the traumas and things like that,

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and go back to where you've dreamed. You know. That's

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how I kind of kind of think it. What are

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some of the biggest limiting beliefs or society norms that

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hold people back from designing their ideal lives.

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because you reference it in your story of you said

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we were not engineers. We were only five or six

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year old. So I think one of the biggest limiting

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beliefs is title. We don't have to have a title

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to change the world. We simply have to be who

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we are. And identifying or identity tied to a job

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title is actually disempowering because if I don't know if

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I'm a manager of a unit, if I take that

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on as who I am and that's my title, that's

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all I do, and it completely creates this dissonance of

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who I actually am, and over time, that dissonance, which

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is disempowering, creates burnout. So I think, yes, understanding, all right,

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this is my title because this is what I've been

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put in charge of. But how do I align this

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with my true superpowers? Because we all have superpowers and

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getting a team together and utilizing everyone's superpowers is one

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of the coolest things to ever witness, because ego is

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like driven out of the way and now it's a

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bunch of five year olds in the sandbox again saying

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how are we going to build the coolest sand castle?

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And everyone's like, I'm really good at constructing, I'm really

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good at organizing, and then all of a sudden, like

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we have this amazing product. So just like your go

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kart that you and your friends created, it just happened

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because everyone tapped into their innate genius. So and I

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also think the limiting belief of seriousness equals professionalism. I

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think that's false. I think if we've all been on

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boring meetings to where it's professional, but but it's like

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this is an hour of my life I can never

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get back. So how do we bring the fun back

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into our work right, because we enjoy. When we enjoy something,

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we remember it, we feed into it, and we don't

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feel bogged down. And the example of that is learning

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to ride a bicycle like this is scaling fun. At first.

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We have no concept of gravity until we fall, and

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then we're like, okay, I lean to the right. This time,

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I'm going to lean to the left and then you

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fall to the left and then you create balance and

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then you're riding. But when we learn to ride, we

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don't just stop. There's not a stop. It's oh, I

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learned how to ride. This was fun. Now what's the

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next step? How much more fun can I have? And

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then you get to the point where you know, people

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ride miles at a time and they're enjoying the scenery,

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riding off roads, and the fun continues to scale because

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we're curious, we're playful, and we're learning as we go.

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And if we're learning, we can't judge. And that's a

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key piece of If we're curious, we're figuring out something

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and learning and it takes the judgment out of the

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way and we're literally the five year old figuring out

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how to build this go kart and the rest of

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the world doesn't exist because it doesn't matter because we're

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changing the world in this moment. So that's the short

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long of it.

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Oh yeah, it makes me think of you know, I

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consult now, but I used to be in an employee

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and in the corporate environment, and I would be sitting

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in those meetings, generally the only women because at that

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time not a lot of women were in finance or tech.

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And you know, everybody's there, you know, standin there all

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stiff and this that and the other night you want

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to talk about breaking down the ice. I would look

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at them and say, you know what, you guys need

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to lighten up, because let me tell you who you

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really are. Since you think you're so important, if you

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go out here and get hit by a bus, there

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are one hundred and twenty five applications in there to

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replace you within the next thirty seconds. So don't think

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too much of yourself and your little title. And I

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was like, we are all here to sit and bring

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ideas and come up with solutions. There's no big person here,

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there's no little ie, there's no big eye. It's just us,

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So let's knock that stuff off. They would me and

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be shocked but I just I, you know, stop looking

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at the title doesn't mean anything. It might mean you

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get paid a certain amount, but it doesn't define who

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you are as a human being. And you're right. We

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have to stop the titles and realize, especially in an

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environment where you're working as teams, everybody is supposed to

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bring something to the table and then we flush it

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all out to find the right solutions, and no one

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person knows everything. We do need collaboration, we do need

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other input, and so yeah, yeah, just tear that stuff down. Okay,

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you managers out there, stop thinking you're the God's give

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to the world. You're just a human that has a

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specific gift. Use it to help others to grow, because

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you're not always going to be in that position. I

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used to tell them, Yeah, I want you to learn

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my job so I can get a promotion. If you

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don't learn my job, I can't ever be promoted. People

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sit there and hould information heid to you're going to

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be stuck there. Share it so you can get up

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and move up or do something else.

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My goodness, great, that brings up a very good point.

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So this is what introduced me to the full understanding

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of the scale of cmrx X at a bare bones

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is creating micro content for macro change. So how do

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we bring simulation and education to our people to allow

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them to practice like they play and practice until proficient.

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And there is one moment where I saw a physician

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that I highly respect. We were we were working a

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serious situation on an eight year old and he was

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doing chess compressions on this on this child, and he

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wasn't paying attention to the to the job that he

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was doing. He was actually paying attention to the family

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and emotionally supporting them while he was providing life saving interventions.

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And it click to me that that is that is

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true competency. If we know how to do something so

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well we don't have to think about it, we automatically

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have the ability to provide human connection. And that's what's missing.

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So if we if we can completely shift from a

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factory style mentality of I'm going to do this, this,

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and this, and say I'm going to be so competent

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in my job that whatever's asked to me, my body's

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going through the habitual patterns and motions because it knows

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how to do it. And I'm going to provide emotional

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support for the human being that I'm taking care of

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in front of me. Everything shifts because the care is

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amazing because we know how to do that skill, task,

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whatever the case may be. But more importantly, this human

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on the other side feels worthy, they feel seen, they

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feel heard, and they feel like they matter. And if

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we can do that, the possibilities are endless. And so ultimately,

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this is competency to me, is creating an environment to

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where the culture is driven by pure competency because we're

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leading through human connection. And to those managers, this is

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where leadership comes in. Is when you know how to

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manage your you know your title manager so well, then

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you can start leading and how do we get to

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that place? How do we get there? Even quicker?

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Yeah, yeah, absolutely, And I don't think a lot of

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managers understand the difference. You know, you set up your

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processes and if everyone's following the process, everything's managed, you're

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going to reach your goals, you're going to get what

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you're supposed to be. But then there's going to be

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other things because companies are always expanding where they're going

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to need leadership into something new. Now you're going to

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be spending time helping to bring knowledge to your team,

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so they're able now to go project into this whole

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new environment where there's going to be you know, some

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wins and some losses and different things like that, and

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they're emotionally not going to you know, take it personally

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and feel like, oh gosh, I let everybody down. No,

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that's just all part of progress. They're going to be

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some wins, there's going to be some losses. But a

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lot of people don't know what leadership is and what

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management is, and they really are two different. I wish

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I'd get rid of the titles, my goodness, because yes,

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they're really not. They don't help the organization.

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Yeah, because it's interesting the title of manager, but they're

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over a department of people, right, and then the leadership

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team is the c suite? But who are they put

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in front of leading? Right? And so this is the

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caveat to taking our title as what we do and

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who we are, you know, if we can simply be yeah, Okay,

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I'm really good at managing task and processes. But I'm

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going to empower anyone I can because I'm going to

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let them know this is progress over perfection. So if

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you're failing, awesome, that means you're trying. And it's only

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failure if you give it permission to be so. Otherwise,

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it's a learning opportunity. So let's keep learning, and let's

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keep let's keep doing this, and let's let's practice the

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way we play practice so proficient, and let's let's see

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how we can shift this culture into something that is

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empowered by the people that actually run the hospital. The employees,

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right so.

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Right right, and they're because they're they're on there. How

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do you say it, I don't know how to say

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it the right way, but they're on the ground, actually

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touching the people that are really needing the help you have.

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The others, like you said, the C suite, they're not

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in touch with anything. They're kind of like on their

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little cloud. Hey, why don't you come down out of

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the sky and see how everybody else is working out.

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You might be able to come up with some better ideas.

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It's just, uh, you know those kinds of things. You know,

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you've got to have your teams and things like that.

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But one of the things I always used to say

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when I was training people to be a manager or

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a supervisor, I let them know that it's your job

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that other team members learn and if they failed, you're

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going to have to ask yourselves some questions. Did you

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give them all the tools they needed to succeed? Not

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the tools you used to you, but the tools they

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need to succeed. If they failed, you're responsible because you

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didn't prep them and you didn't give them all of

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the workable tools they needed to succeed in their position

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they're in. I mean, if we humanize our work environments

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a little more, you know, if they would really be

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so much more productive, you would have customers out there

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who would actually be excited to share. You want a

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shop here? These people are so nice because people could

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be nice because everything's flowing. Cool. Absolutely, But if you

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know all of those gaps.

463
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And their leaders, it's flowing because their leaders set up

464
00:30:11.200 --> 00:30:15.079
an environment for them to be human, for them to

465
00:30:15.200 --> 00:30:18.759
be who they were hiring to be. And that's the

466
00:30:19.319 --> 00:30:22.119
that's that's the beauty of it when it's set up correctly.

467
00:30:22.559 --> 00:30:27.079
And yes, all of that love it, love it.

468
00:30:27.920 --> 00:30:33.039
What are some practical steps listeners can take to initiate

469
00:30:33.359 --> 00:30:38.079
transformative change in their lives and if they feel stuck

470
00:30:38.200 --> 00:30:40.359
or over overwhelmed.

471
00:30:41.000 --> 00:30:45.759
Yeah, this is this is a fascinating topic because it

472
00:30:45.839 --> 00:30:49.720
can go into many different, many different areas. I think

473
00:30:49.759 --> 00:30:53.480
first and foremost, we have to recognize. If we don't recognize,

474
00:30:53.559 --> 00:30:56.680
we're simply going through the habitual patterns of our paradigms

475
00:30:56.720 --> 00:31:01.839
that were created. So it's I tell my coaching clients

476
00:31:02.359 --> 00:31:05.599
when when they get really frustrated at themselves because they

477
00:31:05.640 --> 00:31:08.240
recognize a pattern that they've been in. No, this is

478
00:31:08.279 --> 00:31:12.720
amazing because you actually recognize it. Now before how many years,

479
00:31:13.000 --> 00:31:16.160
twenty years have we've been running in this habitual pattern

480
00:31:16.319 --> 00:31:18.880
and now you recognize it. We can't do anything unless

481
00:31:18.880 --> 00:31:22.400
we identify it and see it. So if we see it,

482
00:31:24.359 --> 00:31:27.160
recognize that, oh, this is amazing, Like this is a

483
00:31:27.279 --> 00:31:30.279
level up of I'm seeing this from a different perspective.

484
00:31:30.559 --> 00:31:34.440
And breathe. Breath is one of the most sacred, amazing

485
00:31:34.640 --> 00:31:39.640
sources that we have to work with and breathe and

486
00:31:39.839 --> 00:31:44.920
offer self forgiveness because we are not perfect. We are

487
00:31:45.039 --> 00:31:48.519
here to learn and this is part of this is

488
00:31:48.599 --> 00:31:52.000
part of learning. And something that was said early on

489
00:31:52.079 --> 00:31:56.160
in the in the show is like, be playful, don't

490
00:31:56.200 --> 00:31:59.240
take everything so seriously. And I'm speaking to myself here

491
00:31:59.279 --> 00:32:03.519
as well, because I'm you know, a recovering perfectionist. So

492
00:32:03.759 --> 00:32:09.039
I the same thing. And it starts with that. And

493
00:32:09.599 --> 00:32:12.240
if you need a visual, ask Okay, what would my

494
00:32:12.240 --> 00:32:14.799
five year old self do right now, because they already

495
00:32:14.799 --> 00:32:19.039
have the answer. It's and that allows us to get

496
00:32:19.079 --> 00:32:22.920
out of our own head and then to remember who

497
00:32:22.960 --> 00:32:25.480
we are. And I think that's the biggest key.

498
00:32:25.960 --> 00:32:29.400
Yeah. And if you look at five year olds, yeah,

499
00:32:29.559 --> 00:32:32.480
they might fall down or they they might you know,

500
00:32:32.640 --> 00:32:35.519
not do things quite right, but they let it blow

501
00:32:35.519 --> 00:32:38.039
over their head. It's like it's really not that serious.

502
00:32:38.319 --> 00:32:41.160
They don't get bent out of shape. We get so

503
00:32:41.319 --> 00:32:45.039
bent out of shape and we and we are worst critics.

504
00:32:45.880 --> 00:32:48.640
We can't even get along with ourselves. We look on

505
00:32:48.680 --> 00:32:52.000
the mirror and it's like, you know, we're upset. It's like,

506
00:32:53.000 --> 00:32:56.640
you better love you, because if you can't love you,

507
00:32:56.640 --> 00:32:59.519
you really can't love anybody else. Right when you when

508
00:32:59.559 --> 00:33:02.559
you have this I don't want to say it this way,

509
00:33:02.599 --> 00:33:06.599
but this kind of self hatred, you can't love anyone else.

510
00:33:06.599 --> 00:33:11.079
And you have to forgive yourself and realize that you

511
00:33:11.160 --> 00:33:13.799
do have a value. You just have to find out

512
00:33:13.880 --> 00:33:19.680
what is in you that brings the value out that

513
00:33:20.039 --> 00:33:24.079
can be a part of humanity absolutely just not knowing that.

514
00:33:24.920 --> 00:33:29.279
How can people I identify their core values and ensure

515
00:33:29.599 --> 00:33:31.960
their life design is aligned with them.

516
00:33:33.880 --> 00:33:38.720
So this is this is interesting because you know values

517
00:33:38.880 --> 00:33:42.559
is it's in every business's business model right, their mission,

518
00:33:42.599 --> 00:33:50.240
their values, and that begins with individual values. I honestly

519
00:33:50.279 --> 00:33:56.920
believe that we rediscover these. So we'll take my personal story.

520
00:33:58.079 --> 00:34:01.799
I'm ten plus years into healthcare, into nursing, and I'm

521
00:34:01.799 --> 00:34:08.800
completely burned out. And my first my first introduction into

522
00:34:10.159 --> 00:34:13.199
this burnout was my wife catching me before I walked

523
00:34:13.199 --> 00:34:14.920
out the door and said, hey, Eric, when you go

524
00:34:14.960 --> 00:34:17.039
to work tonight, look for something good because it's are

525
00:34:17.159 --> 00:34:19.519
you just have to look for it. And I was like,

526
00:34:19.599 --> 00:34:23.239
you're crazy, No, everything is awful, Like I mean, do

527
00:34:23.280 --> 00:34:25.360
you understand the world I'm living in? And I'm going

528
00:34:25.360 --> 00:34:28.440
through the chaotic mess? And then the story goes. It

529
00:34:28.480 --> 00:34:32.360
was the greatest night of my professional career. I was

530
00:34:32.400 --> 00:34:35.400
introduced to a four year old down syndrome patient who

531
00:34:36.519 --> 00:34:38.440
was so sick, but she had one energy to give

532
00:34:38.480 --> 00:34:40.000
to me, and I just knew it was good. I

533
00:34:40.039 --> 00:34:42.440
didn't know what it was. And then her dad started

534
00:34:42.519 --> 00:34:45.760
interacting with me, and it was a really tall man

535
00:34:46.119 --> 00:34:51.360
that offered compassion and his voice what he was saying

536
00:34:51.400 --> 00:34:53.280
was good. Again, I didn't know what it was. I

537
00:34:53.320 --> 00:34:57.400
just knew it was good. So it turns out that

538
00:34:57.559 --> 00:35:00.000
was love. It was unconditional love in two different ways.

539
00:35:00.360 --> 00:35:03.079
And it was very interesting because I was I created

540
00:35:03.159 --> 00:35:06.800
such a dissonance in my purpose and what I was

541
00:35:06.840 --> 00:35:10.840
doing that I didn't recognize who I was anymore. So

542
00:35:12.280 --> 00:35:20.159
first step is identifying there is a gap and then

543
00:35:20.360 --> 00:35:24.760
actually going within. So I realized I was not feeling

544
00:35:24.800 --> 00:35:31.639
emotions at all because they were a protective mechanism that

545
00:35:31.679 --> 00:35:34.239
I created from the bad things that I was seeing,

546
00:35:34.960 --> 00:35:38.199
you know, in results of patients that I was caring for.

547
00:35:38.400 --> 00:35:40.440
And it was a protective thing, but I couldn't turn

548
00:35:40.480 --> 00:35:46.159
it off and on. It was numbing me. So what

549
00:35:46.360 --> 00:35:51.199
happens when we see the world through joy, curiosity, and belonging,

550
00:35:51.599 --> 00:35:55.159
which is what this idea of where is the good?

551
00:35:55.960 --> 00:36:00.000
That's what I started seeing, and the finding the good

552
00:36:00.000 --> 00:36:08.559
good led me back to my mission, my purpose and

553
00:36:08.639 --> 00:36:15.239
my values and values can change. Of course, there's value

554
00:36:15.239 --> 00:36:20.079
assessments that we can do, but having you know, I

555
00:36:20.119 --> 00:36:22.480
think this depends on where we are in the environment

556
00:36:22.880 --> 00:36:25.199
and in the in the work environment. If we are

557
00:36:25.280 --> 00:36:29.679
a manager, we're at an amazing place to offer value

558
00:36:29.719 --> 00:36:36.119
propositions to our employees to help them see that, and

559
00:36:36.159 --> 00:36:38.320
then likewise we can do that with our uppers. But

560
00:36:39.840 --> 00:36:43.880
so if it feels fuzzy, again, start with the younger self,

561
00:36:44.159 --> 00:36:47.480
like what what did you enjoy doings as a child?

562
00:36:47.519 --> 00:36:52.000
My five year old self loved boundaries, buddy, loved to

563
00:36:52.079 --> 00:36:54.239
take it all the way to the boundaries and saying

564
00:36:54.280 --> 00:36:56.760
how far can we stretch this? How far can we

565
00:36:56.800 --> 00:36:59.239
move these boundaries out? And it was the innovative self

566
00:36:59.280 --> 00:37:02.079
saying how can we make more room for more people

567
00:37:02.159 --> 00:37:05.519
to come play? And how do we do that? So

568
00:37:05.960 --> 00:37:12.880
human connection, human involvement that became remembered value of mind.

569
00:37:15.039 --> 00:37:19.079
Well, how do people stop the voices that kind of

570
00:37:19.119 --> 00:37:21.719
hold them back? What are you know? What are some

571
00:37:22.760 --> 00:37:26.880
common obstacles people face when trying to redesign their lives

572
00:37:26.920 --> 00:37:31.920
and how can they overcome those voices? Those voices that

573
00:37:32.039 --> 00:37:34.920
say you're not worthy, or you did this? Are you

574
00:37:35.320 --> 00:37:39.000
gonna mess it up? Or I know what I used,

575
00:37:39.159 --> 00:37:41.719
I did, but I.

576
00:37:43.239 --> 00:37:48.239
Yes, And the voice of not enough was my voice.

577
00:37:48.559 --> 00:37:54.199
And that's a lot of voices that people hear starting off.

578
00:37:54.239 --> 00:37:56.519
I'm gonna let everyone know you were more than enough

579
00:37:57.000 --> 00:37:59.800
and you were so worthy and you're worth it. And

580
00:38:00.119 --> 00:38:04.079
if you don't hear that from anyone else, I'm speaking

581
00:38:04.119 --> 00:38:08.199
truth and say that back to yourself. That is, to me,

582
00:38:08.400 --> 00:38:13.840
the number one voice that is debilitating. And so when

583
00:38:13.880 --> 00:38:17.440
we recognize this voice of not enough, not living up

584
00:38:17.480 --> 00:38:21.039
to unrealistic expectations, there's a couple of things here that

585
00:38:21.239 --> 00:38:25.960
are very powerful. One recognizing and asking yourself, is this

586
00:38:26.239 --> 00:38:30.800
my voice? Because chances are it's not. Chances are it

587
00:38:30.840 --> 00:38:35.199
was built from a situation or an environment that allowed

588
00:38:35.280 --> 00:38:39.760
us to take this as a new title of not enough.

589
00:38:41.360 --> 00:38:43.719
The second thing is standing in front of a mirror

590
00:38:44.039 --> 00:38:47.159
and saying I am more than enough, I am worthy.

591
00:38:47.320 --> 00:38:50.480
I love you, and it's the weirdest thing in the

592
00:38:50.519 --> 00:38:55.119
world until it's not. And there is something about saying

593
00:38:55.159 --> 00:39:03.400
it to yourself. Luise Hey built a empire around tending

594
00:39:03.480 --> 00:39:07.360
to our younger self, and it starts with offering forgiveness

595
00:39:07.760 --> 00:39:11.679
and offering and doing this through mirror work. So that

596
00:39:11.719 --> 00:39:14.559
would be the first thing. And then also like pausing

597
00:39:14.679 --> 00:39:18.000
breathing and while you question that voice, like whose voice

598
00:39:18.039 --> 00:39:21.679
is this? M H, and understanding we don't have to

599
00:39:21.719 --> 00:39:24.360
give it permission to live in our head anymore. We

600
00:39:24.360 --> 00:39:26.920
don't have to believe it. Just because we have a

601
00:39:26.920 --> 00:39:30.360
thought doesn't mean it's true, and we don't have to

602
00:39:30.400 --> 00:39:33.480
go in this habitual pattern. So whose voice is it?

603
00:39:33.559 --> 00:39:38.880
And even if it's mine, whose is it? Because even

604
00:39:38.920 --> 00:39:41.639
if it's my voice, where did it come from? And

605
00:39:41.679 --> 00:39:44.840
become curious about it and find it and be like

606
00:39:45.400 --> 00:39:47.480
that's not who I am? I am worthy.

607
00:39:48.480 --> 00:39:56.840
Yeah. I remember years back of a girlfriend of mine.

608
00:39:57.079 --> 00:40:02.159
She and I would go every Saturday to the alcohol

609
00:40:02.320 --> 00:40:06.440
and drug addiction centers and meet with, you know, those

610
00:40:06.519 --> 00:40:12.400
that were there, you know, trying to kick addiction. And

611
00:40:12.440 --> 00:40:15.320
we would just you know, talk with them and share

612
00:40:15.360 --> 00:40:21.239
with them. And I did a little i don't know skit,

613
00:40:21.719 --> 00:40:24.079
you know, to show them what they were worth. I

614
00:40:24.079 --> 00:40:26.440
took a twenty dollar bill. I said, who wants this

615
00:40:26.440 --> 00:40:28.360
twenty dollar bill? And it was a brand new one.

616
00:40:28.440 --> 00:40:31.119
It was crisp and looking really good, and everybody was

617
00:40:31.119 --> 00:40:31.800
like yeah, yeah.

618
00:40:31.679 --> 00:40:32.280
Yeah, yeah.

619
00:40:32.440 --> 00:40:36.119
And then I crumpled it up and then I food

620
00:40:36.199 --> 00:40:38.039
on the floor and stepped on it and grounded in

621
00:40:38.079 --> 00:40:40.840
the dirt, and then I was just about getting ready

622
00:40:40.880 --> 00:40:43.119
to spit on it, and I said, oh it's dirty

623
00:40:43.159 --> 00:40:46.239
and enough. Okay, now who wants this twenty dollar bill?

624
00:40:46.559 --> 00:40:48.679
And then it kind of saw some of them not

625
00:40:49.400 --> 00:40:52.800
raising their hands. I'm like, why aren't you raising your hand?

626
00:40:53.800 --> 00:40:57.360
WHOA because it got a little dirty, it got a

627
00:40:57.400 --> 00:41:01.480
little crumpled up. Well, let me open it back up.

628
00:41:01.920 --> 00:41:05.199
Isn't this still a twenty dollar bill? It has not

629
00:41:05.400 --> 00:41:09.199
lost its value. Maybe the outside of it got a

630
00:41:09.199 --> 00:41:13.440
little dirty. Maybe the outside of it got a little crumpled,

631
00:41:14.719 --> 00:41:18.280
but the inside it's still twenty dollars. It'll still go by,

632
00:41:18.679 --> 00:41:21.239
you know, a burger and surprise and a Coca Cola

633
00:41:21.239 --> 00:41:24.239
and some other things. It didn't lose its value. Well

634
00:41:24.239 --> 00:41:28.440
that's who you are. You got a little crumpled, but

635
00:41:28.480 --> 00:41:32.559
your value hasn't changed. Now, I just need you to

636
00:41:32.599 --> 00:41:37.840
see yourself that you still have the same value. Stop

637
00:41:37.920 --> 00:41:42.000
those voices in your head. I will suggest maybe changing

638
00:41:42.039 --> 00:41:49.199
some of your friendships and connections, But stop telling yourself

639
00:41:49.199 --> 00:41:52.400
you're not worthy. Stop telling yourself you're not good enough.

640
00:41:52.760 --> 00:41:56.639
If you feel like you've hurt someone, go say I'm sorry,

641
00:41:57.440 --> 00:42:00.199
and then stand in the mirror after our meeting and

642
00:42:00.239 --> 00:42:05.360
go tell yourself I'm sorry. Forgive yourself and let's move on.

643
00:42:05.519 --> 00:42:07.840
You got too much talent, you have too many gifts,

644
00:42:07.840 --> 00:42:10.800
you have too many great things inside of you. Don't

645
00:42:10.920 --> 00:42:16.119
let this steal away the beautiful life that you was

646
00:42:16.119 --> 00:42:20.320
intended for you, I'll tell you. And I enjoy that

647
00:42:20.440 --> 00:42:22.840
because you know, I'd be walking down the street going

648
00:42:22.840 --> 00:42:28.440
to lunch for my job and I remember this girl chasing,

649
00:42:29.079 --> 00:42:32.280
you know, running across the street, Angela, Angela, Angela, and

650
00:42:32.320 --> 00:42:36.400
I think, yeah, you probably don't remember me, but I'm

651
00:42:36.440 --> 00:42:39.480
so and so I'm in college now. I used to

652
00:42:39.519 --> 00:42:44.320
be at the treatment center and it just made me

653
00:42:44.360 --> 00:42:50.480
feel so overjoyed because just telling them that they were worthy,

654
00:42:51.480 --> 00:42:55.519
made them change, made them seek better things, made them

655
00:42:55.760 --> 00:42:59.559
reimagine what their lives could be. Absolutely, it was happening

656
00:42:59.559 --> 00:43:02.400
before you even knew you're what you were saying.

657
00:43:02.679 --> 00:43:06.320
Eric, Yeah, you you gave them a permission slip. And like,

658
00:43:07.960 --> 00:43:10.039
it's the most beautiful thing that we can do as

659
00:43:10.119 --> 00:43:14.480
humans is open someone's eyes to the construct that they've

660
00:43:14.480 --> 00:43:17.960
been living in and say no, no, no, you're you're valuable, Like,

661
00:43:18.519 --> 00:43:21.840
see your value because we see it, and we're better

662
00:43:22.119 --> 00:43:27.679
when you're with us. So I love that, And you

663
00:43:27.719 --> 00:43:30.519
know it's amazing the stories that we tell ourselves. And

664
00:43:30.679 --> 00:43:35.280
you know I used to early on in my marriage,

665
00:43:35.280 --> 00:43:37.199
I would tell my wife, if you could only see

666
00:43:37.239 --> 00:43:40.400
me through my eyes instead of yours, you would see

667
00:43:40.440 --> 00:43:44.400
the the beauty and the profound amazingness that that's within you.

668
00:43:44.599 --> 00:43:48.599
And so like, how do we start to see ourselves

669
00:43:48.599 --> 00:43:53.119
from other people's perspectives? And I think that that starts

670
00:43:53.119 --> 00:43:58.559
with like the human connections that that we intentionally put forth.

671
00:43:58.679 --> 00:44:01.480
Like I love that story because yes, we are valuable,

672
00:44:01.480 --> 00:44:06.239
and we are going to get dirty and maybe ripped

673
00:44:06.320 --> 00:44:10.280
and torn a bit, but like that adds, that adds

674
00:44:10.320 --> 00:44:12.639
to the story. It doesn't take away the value.

675
00:44:13.000 --> 00:44:17.920
Yes, it really does, it really does. And you know

676
00:44:18.079 --> 00:44:21.199
I would feed on Friday nights. I would feed the homeless,

677
00:44:22.000 --> 00:44:26.719
and you know, just just working with them. A lot

678
00:44:26.800 --> 00:44:29.639
of them were veterans, and my heart goes out to

679
00:44:29.679 --> 00:44:33.440
them because they gave so much and they come back

680
00:44:33.719 --> 00:44:37.360
and nobody sees them. They walk past them like they're

681
00:44:37.360 --> 00:44:40.119
a tree or a rock on the sidewalk. They don't

682
00:44:40.400 --> 00:44:43.639
look them in the face, they don't see them. And

683
00:44:45.159 --> 00:44:49.280
I don't know whether it's a fear or what it is,

684
00:44:49.440 --> 00:44:54.199
but you know, I said, they just need to be seen,

685
00:44:55.719 --> 00:44:58.920
and so it really helped them, and so many of

686
00:44:58.960 --> 00:45:01.480
them were able to to pull their lives together. Some

687
00:45:01.519 --> 00:45:05.480
of their stories, oh my gosh, they were unbelievable. But

688
00:45:06.239 --> 00:45:09.199
you know, I would be there just to listen to

689
00:45:09.239 --> 00:45:12.480
their story, and I think just just me listening really

690
00:45:12.599 --> 00:45:19.239
helped many of them to make different decisions. All of

691
00:45:19.239 --> 00:45:21.480
them are because of some choices, and like we can.

692
00:45:21.599 --> 00:45:23.679
We just got to choose to go for our purpose

693
00:45:23.840 --> 00:45:27.400
or you know, whatever stopped us or changed us. And

694
00:45:27.639 --> 00:45:31.159
you know, I think we need to talk to ourselves

695
00:45:31.199 --> 00:45:33.239
and be our own best friends instead of our own

696
00:45:33.280 --> 00:45:36.760
best critics. Because you can run into a whole lot

697
00:45:36.800 --> 00:45:38.079
of people are gonna put you down.

698
00:45:38.480 --> 00:45:38.880
For sure.

699
00:45:39.639 --> 00:45:44.440
We're outside, you don't have to look far. Somebody there,

700
00:45:44.719 --> 00:45:46.960
but so you have to come in and tell yourself.

701
00:45:47.360 --> 00:45:50.000
And I always keep hearing my mother and my father's

702
00:45:50.079 --> 00:45:53.519
voice telling me, oh, Angela, you can do anything, and

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that it really still makes me keep going. It really

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does hearing and say, oh you can do anything. Okay,

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so you messed up a little here, but you can

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do anything. And that's always pushed me and kept me

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moving onward, onward, onward, And so it's just you know,

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can you share some examples of small, actionable steps the

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listeners can take today to start reimagining their lives.

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Yeah. After so, let's say a situation comes up and

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it's an identification of wait a minute, this doesn't feel

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an alignment or I'm burned out or there's a dissonance,

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a simple journal of what would my five year old

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self do here and having no constructs, literally tapping into imagination.

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Something else that is super simple but very profound is

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to swap it obligation for a joy this week. So

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whatever that may be, let let a joy come into

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your calendar. Replace you know, the something that you have

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on there with something joyous, and then share it with

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someone like legit, share the joy the experience with someone

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for not only accountability, but for connection, Like give someone

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else a permission slip to reimagine their lives, because that

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allows us to tap into this well of a spring

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that is never ending, and it opens up a different level.

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So yeah, those are three very small but yet very

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profound things that we can start doing right now.

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Well, we're running out of time. I'd like you to

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share with the audience because we are also on how

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can they get in touch with you and your organization

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and even your counseling.

731
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Yeah. Absolutely so, I'm on LinkedIn, I'm on Facebook, Instagram. Also,

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my website is Life Bydesign dot me. I have access

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to all of the things that I offer Aligned by Design,

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Culture by Design. You can pick up the book similar

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XT Transforming Healthcare Leadership and Culture by Design on Amazon.

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Those are the easiest places. Or email at Eric at

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Life by Design dot Me.

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Okay, and I will have this put out on my

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website so that people able to get in touch and

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get this wonderful information. I mean, yes, I've had a

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long work career and everything, but yes, I'm still redesigning myself.

742
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I've done it because I plan on living to be

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one hundred and twenty. Okay, maybe one hundred and five,

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but I plan on being around, so I have to

745
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continue to redesign myself. Absolutely, Eric, thank you so much

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for being here to have this, you know, just exciting conversation.

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You have to come back and give us more because

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there's just so much more you know to tell us,

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but we have to wrap up. I know everyone enjoyed.

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It's time to reimagine your life. It's time to change

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those negativities and tell those voices in your head stop

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talking to me and move on and tell yourself you're wonderful,

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because you are wonderful. You are wonderfully and fearfully made,

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and there is a place for you to go and shine,

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so let's get to it. Thank you for joining a

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Sharp Outlook and as always, we are here every Monday

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at eleven am Easter Time, eight am Pacific time. And

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whatever you do this week, stay informed. I want to

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thank you for joining us on a Sharp Outlook. We

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have been informed and energized to take the next steps.

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We have posted links to websites and videos to learn

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